11 Dating Resolutions For The New Year

11 Dating Resolutions For The New Year ©iStock/Mediaphotos

Whether you’re single, in a serious relationship, or one of the many things in between, dating is a part of your life. We all make mistakes, and all the advice in the world can sometimes be useless until we have to go through a bad experience and figure things out the hard way. Hopefully 2018 taught you a thing or two, but here are a few resolutions everyone could stand to make to guarantee 2019 is an even better year for dating:

  1. Delete Tinder. Swiping left or right based on looks was kind of a novelty at first, but after awhile it becomes pretty clear that unless you’re up for spontaneous sex with strangers, you probably aren’t going to have much luck on Tinder. There are better ways to pass the time, so do yourself a favor and start 2019 by quitting Tinder cold turkey.
  2. Focus on one online dating profile. Quitting online dating altogether might not be realistic if you’re actively looking for dates, but do you really need a profile on every app and site available? Choose the one you like the best and focus on it for awhile. After all, dating should be about quality not quantity.
  3. Try to meet more people in person. Assuming you go out in public most days, you’re probably passing by hundreds of possible dates without even making eye contact. No one is suggesting you make a move on every guy you see, but it can’t hurt to strike up a conversation every once in awhile.
  4. Forget your type. Whether you always go for athletic guys, or an intellectual is more your type, you’re probably missing out on a lot of great guys by being too close minded. You could find love in the most unexpected of places, but you’ll never know unless you look.
  5. Be more creative with date ideas. If you don’t want to go on the typical coffee or dinner and drinks date yet again, try suggesting something different. There aren’t many guys out there that won’t be impressed by a girl who takes a little initiative and doesn’t expect him to do all the work.
  6. Give in to your friend’s requests to set you up. Granted, blind dates have high potential for being absolutely awful. But at least you’ll get a good story out of it, and your friend will finally stop bugging you about the “hot guy” from her volleyball team she’s sure you’ll love.
  7. Take a break from the search. If 2018 just wasn’t your year when it came to romance, maybe taking a break from being on the constant prowl would be a better way to start off 2019. Hopefully, taking a breather and focusing on yourself for a bit will help you leave all the frustration behind and start fresh when you’re ready.
  8. Finally end that on-again, off-again thing. Even if it’s not serious, most of us have a guy we just can’t seem to shake no matter how hard we try. But if you know it’s not going anywhere, it may be time to put a stop to the ambiguity and say goodbye to him once and for all.
  9. Go after what you want. We all wish the perfect guy would just come knocking on our door one day and we’ll live happily ever after. Unfortunately love rarely falls in your lap without any effort on your part. Instead of waiting for it to come to you, figure out exactly what it is you want, and go out and get it yourself.
  10. Be more spontaneous. We’ve all been trained to not give a guy the impression that we’re waiting by the phone for his attention. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t jump at last minute plans every so often. You don’t have to have an entire date planned out a week in advance for it to be a success. Sometimes the best dates are the ones that are completely unexpected.
  11. Make time. Everyone’s busy. But if you want a relationship, you’ll have to make time in your life for one. If you can do that, you can make time to go on dates and get to know some new people. A relationship doesn’t just happen, you have to make it a priority and spend time on it.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.