11 Struggles Of Being “The Funny One” Of The Group

Every group of gal pals have a bunch of different characters in them. Your best girl-friends can be super-feminine, and/or really into sports; they can be craft beer hipsters and/or wine connoisseurs; they can be Disney-obsessed, and/or scream queen fanatics! Your friends have a bunch of things going for them, and you’re not likely to find a friend who fits into a stereotype 100%.

But in every friendship group, there always seems to be one or two friends that stands out as the funny ones. You know the type – heck, you might be her! – they’re a blast at a party, they always have the cheesiest jokes, they’re laughter is infectious, and they always seem to be up for having fun! The funny friend is a blast to be around, but while we love the funny girl, there are also a few problems that comes with the territory.

  1. You’re easily friend-zoned. When you’re a funny girl, guys tend to think of you as “one of the guys” and you become friend-zoned pretty quickly. Being friend-zoned usually happens to the funny girl because being intimate requires a somewhat serious mood, one that many might think the funny girl of being capable of!
  2. You’re patronized a lot. Some people make assumptions about funny people. Mainly, that they’re dumb, not ambitious or disinterested in topics that are usually left for more serious conversations. Well, they’re wrong. But unfortunately for funny girls, we may find ourselves patronized and talked down to because of this misconception.
  3. You’re not taken seriously. Just because the funny girl jokes around a lot, doesn’t mean that we don’t want to be taken seriously too. Not everything that comes out of our mouths is a joke, and if you can’t figure out the difference between when we’re joking and when we’re being serious, then you need to work on your people skills.
  4. People assume you’re not sensitive. News alert! Funny girls have feelings too!
  5. You sometimes feel embarrassed about showing emotion. The funny girl has one emotion – happiness. Or, so the stereotype may have you think. The reality is that just because you’re frequently laughing or making jokes, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t experience other emotions too. In fact, as is evidenced by Robin Williams, many comedic characters actually suffer from depression too.
  6. You’re pigeon-holed into a role. Being the funny girl means that you’re often expected to relate to your friends and those around you in a certain “funny” and light-hearted way, which can make you feel alienated from certain aspects of your friends lives.
  7. Being seen as sexy is hard when you’re making fart noises. So dating is sometimes a bit of an issue.
  8. Sometimes it’s hard to turn it off. When you’re used to finding the funny in everything, it’s sometimes hard to switch that off. Which can make for some awkward conversations, especially in work environments or events when being funny is just inappropriate… but you just can’t seem to help yourself.
  9. You’re always expected to be in a good mood. Even when all you want to do is go home and sleep.
  10. You’re expected to cheer people up. You’re friend just got dumped? Well, it’s time for you to take them out on the town and keep things easy and breezy. Which is fine and all, but sometimes a girl just doesn’t have it in them.
  11. Deeper friendships are sometimes hard to come by. It’s sometimes hard to get into those deep conversations with people when all they expect from you is some sh*ts and giggles.
Sarah is a full-time content marketer, part-time freelancer. She’s a serial hobbyist (which just means that she does a lot of random things, but none of them particularly well). Her real talent lies in her ability to consume copious amounts of wine, whilst discussing feminism and reading A Song of Ice and Fire for the 8th time... All while saving puppies from burning houses, of course. You can see more of her work here, or pop over to Twitter and say “‘ello ‘ello” @daughterdipstik