11 Guy Types I Don’t Even Consider Because I’ve Finally Realized My Worth

I’ve never been good at dating, but that’s because I’d been dating the same types of guys over and over again—jerks, a-holes, men who act like boys and say they want something real when in actuality they’re too scared to handle a relationship. Not anymore. Here are 11 types of guys I’m avoiding from here on out (and honestly, you probably should too):

  1. The guy who only hits me up after hours I’m done with the guy who doesn’t respond to my texts during normal business hours but blows up my phone around 2:30 a.m. when he’s clearly drunk, lonely, and horny. If he can’t communicate with me during the day, he’s not going to get my attention during the night.
  2. The guy whose actions speak louder than his words The guy who tells me how much he likes me but then doesn’t talk to me for weeks on end is now dead to me because, like, what the hell is that about? He’s not busy with work (at least, he’s not busier than any other working person) and his phone isn’t broken—he has absolutely no reason to not be talking to me and yet, he doesn’t. K.
  3. The guy who’s lazy AF I don’t have a problem with the guy who, after a long day of work, just wants to chill out on the couch and play video games. I have an issue with the guy who’s too lazy to be in a relationship, too lazy to text me every day, call me, spend time with me, and make future plans with me. The guy who’s too lazy to effectively date is a waste of my time and energy.
  4. The guy who’s too old Age is just a number, right? Wrong! As a 20-something, I don’t think I have what it takes to date someone in their late 30s, and I say this because I dated someone in their late 30s and it was messy (and not in a good way). Sure, he was cool and mature but he was also kind of weird and I couldn’t help but wonder why a 36-year-old man was interested in a 22-year-old woman.
  5. The guy who asks too many sexual questions I can’t stand the guy who, after only a couple weeks of knowing me, asks me a ton of sexual questions. Inappropriate! He doesn’t need to know how many sexual relationships I’ve had in the last year, what my favorite position is, and if I’ve ever tried anal. These are questions he’d end up getting the answers to over time anyway.
  6. The guy who never asks me out A girl can only Netflix & Chill so many times before she starts to get pissy about how much Netflix & Chill she’s doing. I’m currently at that point in my life. If one more guy tells me to “come over and chill,” I’m going to lose it. Don’t ask me to come over, tell me you’re going to pick up…and then proceed to take me to dinner, coffee, a movie. I don’t care. Just not Netflix & Chill.
  7. The guy who only comes around during cuffing season Ughhh. Cuffing Season is the worst! I get it, it’s cold outside and instead of a blanket, people want another person to keep them warm. But why can’t guys just go on Tinder and find a cuddle buddy for the season—why do they have to slide through my DMs and act like they’re interested in me when they’re really not? It’s rude and it’s disrespectful and I’m not going to entertain the guy who only talks to me when it’s cold outside.
  8. The guy who’s clearly playing games There are certain things guys do that clearly prove they’re playing games. And maybe I’m a little too extra, but I’ve compiled somewhat of a list of go-tos for players. If he waits over an hour (maybe two) to respond to my text and doesn’t give a legit reason for why he did so, he’s playing a game. If he refuses to make concrete plans days in advance, he’s playing a game. If he doesn’t want me to go out with his friends, he’s playing a game (and sleeping with other people). Needless to say, I’m done with the guy who’s playing with my emotions like they’re nothing.
  9. The guy who breaks up with me but wants to stay friends He’s trying to have his cake and eat it too. He doesn’t want the responsibility of being in a relationship because he wants the freedom to spend time with other females. However, he likes his options, so he’ll keep me close just in case he decides he really does want to settle down. NOPE. Next!
  10. The guy who has a girlfriend already but wants to be “friends” This would be okay if we’d been friends prior to the start of his relationship, but that wasn’t the case. In fact, the complete opposite—we used to casually hook up, so why the hell would it be appropriate for us to be friends while he’s in a committed relationship? Oh right, it wouldn’t be. BYEEE.
  11. The guy who doesn’t make me feel special The guy who never compliments me or make me feel special isn’t the kind of guy I want in my life. I’m not sure if it’s a front or what, but I don’t need someone who’s too afraid to express their feelings. There’s nothing more annoying than having to overanalyze someone’s words, and actions just because they’re too scared (or manipulative) to tell you what’s in their head. If he’s not being real with me, I’m going to take that as a sign he’s not really interested in me.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.