11 Reasons Why You Should Be Grateful To Be Single On Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a holiday that celebrates love, but when you’re single, it’s not always easy to feel that way. If you’re feeling a bit bummed out watching all the romantic couples around you spoiling each other with expensive gifts and fancy dinners, remember that being single on February 14 is a blessing, not a curse.

  1. There are no expectations. You don’t have to hope that your long-term BF will finally propose and then feel devastated when he doesn’t get down on one knee at your fancy Italian dinner. You don’t have to worry about him getting you the perfect gift (or any gift at all). Being alone on V-Day means that you have zero expectations, and that’s actually a good thing. Who cares if you’re just hanging out alone at home? You don’t have to feel bad that something didn’t happen.
  2. You don’t have to schedule sex (or anything else). It’s basically a given that if you’re part of a couple on the 14th of February, you’re going to get lucky at night. Be glad that you don’t have to schedule sex, because that can take the fun out of things — and fast. You don’t have to schedule anything at all, actually, which is even better. You can spend the day however you want.
  3. You get all the chocolate for yourself. Say goodbye to sharing that fancy chocolate your mom always buys you with your boyfriend. You can enjoy all the chocolate in the world all by yourself. It’s pretty much self-explanatory why this is such an awesome thing.
  4. You won’t crack under the pressure. When there’s one day that is supposed to be The Most Romantic Day ever, that’s a lot of pressure. You feel like you’re supposed to be the perfect girlfriend and your boyfriend is supposed to be flawless as well. What if you’re not? What if he’s not? Be grateful that you don’t have to worry about proving that you’re one half of the best couple.
  5. You can spend the day however you want. Want to close the curtains, curl up on the couch, and binge-watch Netflix? Want to drink wine and eat junk food? Don’t want to talk to a single soul? You can totally spend Valentine’s Day however you want when you’re single.
  6. You don’t have to deal with the cheesy stuff. Not everyone loves red roses and teddy bears and hearts. If you’re someone who is the total opposite of a hopeless romantic, then Valentine’s Day is probably closer to a nightmare than a dream for you. It’s pretty sweet that you don’t have to pretend that you love the heart-shaped chocolate that your boyfriend just bought you (okay, so you love the candy aspect, but nothing else).
  7. You can avoid the most annoying parts. Feeling obligated to give your boyfriend a present. Desperately trying to find a restaurant that will actually take dinner reservations. Wondering if you should be traditional and expect your boyfriend to do the planning, or if that’s way too sexist. If you’re single on this day, you can avoid the worst parts and keep the best ones (aka eating chocolate).
  8. You don’t have to feel bad about your solo status. Who said you have to feel crappy that you’re still alone on yet another Valentine’s Day? Your best friend? Your mom? Society in general? Please. You’re an amazing person, and this is literally just one 24-hour period. It doesn’t say anything about you as a human being, and it definitely doesn’t mean that you’ll never find love.
  9. You don’t have to talk about your celebration. If you’ve got a boyfriend, then watch out: on February 15th, you’re going to have to tell your best friends, coworkers, mom, and your nosy cousin all about the romantic evening that your BF planned. It’s going to be exhausting and annoying, and it’ll make you wish you were single by the end of the conversation. If you’re single, you’re super lucky since you can avoid the whole thing.
  10. You don’t have anything to prove. You don’t have to update your Facebook status to prove that, yup, you’ve got the best boyfriend ever (just like every other coupled-up woman on your feed). You don’t have to talk up your evening and pretend it was better than it actually was. You can breathe easily since you’re free and clear of that pressure.
  11. You can skip overanalyzing your relationship. You don’t have to wonder if your boyfriend is good enough or if he should have sprung for concert tickets or a super pricey skiing trip like your sister’s partner. You don’t have to compare your situation to other people’s and wonder if you’re measuring up. And you definitely don’t have to overanalyze your relationship and wonder if the way that you spent Valentine’s Day means that you should break up. Phew. Now where’s the wine and chocolate?
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.