11 Signs He Cares About You More Than He Says

It’s not always easy to know whether or not a guy is interested in you. Some people purposely hide their emotions or they inadvertently put walls up because they’re afraid of being hurt. So, how are you supposed to know he cares if he won’t admit it? Here are 11 signs that prove he does.

  1. He Texts At Random. What time do you usually hear from him? You can’t say, can you? That’s because he texts you at random times. He’s not playing hard to get or trying to manipulate you. He has no problem reaching out first thing in the morning or later in the day. You’re not a booty call — he doesn’t have to call you after 10 p.m. or in the middle of the night. You’re on his mind all times of day.
  2. He Gives You Advice. You can tell he really cares about you by how he communicates. Sure, he lets you talk, but more importantly, he gives you advice. A guy who cares will share his opinions. If he didn’t care, he’d sit and let you talk while keeping mum even if he thought you were making the wrong decision.
  3. Your Opinions matter. If he didn’t care, he wouldn’t bother to hear your opinion on anything. In fact, he’d actively ignore your thoughts. If you wanted Chinese food, he’d overrule you and order Italian. A guy who really likes you will value your opinions on everything. From what they should eat for dinner to what job they should apply for.
  4. He Goes Out Of His Way. He lets you choose the movie and volunteers to pick up food at your favorite restaurant (even though it’s nowhere near your apartment). He wants you to be happy, so he goes out of his way to put a smile on your face — and he does it naturally. You don’t have to beg him to spend time with you or manipulate him into caring about you.
  5. He Remembers What You Say. How do you know if someone’s listening to you? They actually remember what you say. When you talk, he actually listens and engages. That’s why he knows your co-worker’s names and that you want to be married in five years. He asks questions when you talk and gives you advice even when you don’t ask. If he didn’t care, your words would go in one ear and out the other.
  6. He Notices Little Changes. Did you cut your hair? Get your eyebrows waxed? He notices these little things without you having to bring them up. That’s a sign he really cares about you. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t pay attention to the small details. Trust me, if he wasn’t obsessed, your new dye job would go completely unnoticed.
  7. His Friends Know About You. The truth is, he wouldn’t mention you to his friends if he wasn’t serious, so the fact that his friends know about you is pretty much proof of how much he cares. When you’re around his besties, you can tell he’s proud to have you with him. He keeps you close, compliments you, and isn’t afraid to show a little PDA.
  8. He Works On Problems. Guys who don’t care pretty much stop talking at the first sight of trouble. They don’t address their concerns or work to find a solution. They either ghost or get defensive. But he doesn’t, does he? Instead of leaving, he talks out problems with you and tries to find a way forward. He fights for you because he cares.
  9. He Does Things You Hate. He might not quit his job to move across the country with you, but he’ll do things he wouldn’t normally. He’ll watch horror movies with you even though he hates scary stuff. He’ll go to the mall with you, even though he’d rather be at the bar with friends. He’s compromising his usual routine so he can spend time with you. That’s a sign he really cares.
  10. He’s Interested In Your Future. A guy who cares is someone who’s interested in having a future with you. Which means, he wants to know your plans…and whether your goals might align with his and vice versa. We’re not saying he’s ready to pop the question tomorrow, but he’s asking questions because he really, really cares.
  11. He Takes Care Of You. He’s not sexist. He doesn’t look at you to do all the cooking and cleaning. He steps up! He’ll make you dinner and clean the dishes up afterward (yes, you read that right). He’s a gentleman and he cares about you, which means he wants to take care of you. Even if that means swallowing his man card and bringing you breakfast in bed.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.