11 Signs He’s Never Going To Marry You

You see a big, happy future with your boyfriend that includes walking down the aisle, but are you sure he’s on the same page? If you notice these things happening in your relationship, he may love you and even want to spend a long time with you, but he’s probably never going to marry you. Can you handle that? If not, it might be time to throw in the towel.

  1. He can’t make things official. If he can’t even make your relationship official, then how do you know he sees a future with you? That’s probably not going to happen if you’ve been with him for months or years and he still can’t tell people he’s with you. What game is he playing?
  2. He “doesn’t believe in marriage.” Maybe marriage just isn’t for him, or maybe he’s just not feeling marriage with you. Whatever the case, you should believe what he says instead of trying to change him because that will just end up in heartache.
  3. He plays the confused card. You might feel like your relationship is stagnating a bit. You want to move on to new relationship milestones but he always holds back. He might claim that he doesn’t know if he wants to move in with you right now or he’s unsure what he wants in general. Ugh, those are really bad signs.
  4. He keeps you away from his loved ones. When you hung out with him and his family recently, they invited you to another family function but your boyfriend doesn’t want you to go there or he keeps you far away from his closest friends. If he’s not letting you into the rest of his life, he doesn’t see a future with you.
  5. He runs away from conflict. If a guy can’t handle the bad times in your relationship, that’s not a good sign that he’s going to make a good spouse. It’s also a sign that he’s not going to want to grow with you in your relationship. He might even be using those toxic fights to push you away.
  6. He’s a someday kind of guy. When you ask him about your relationship, he’ll make you empty promises. He might say that someday he’ll marry you, he just has to get his life in order/become a better man/make more money. He always has an excuse for why he’s not taking your relationship to a higher level.
  7. He keeps it casual. You tell him how deeply you feel for him, and what does he do? He acts like your relationship is just casual and laid-back. You’re clearly on totally different pages. He might even act like your relationship is NBD when other people in his life ask about it. That’s not cool.
  8. He’s anti-marriage. While you see marriage as something positive and hopeful, he’s all doom and gloom. Notice what he says about marriage, even if it’s in response to relationships you watch on 90 Day Fiancé, whether it’s that it’s a bad idea or it’s a death sentence. Such statements will give you huge insight into whether or not he wants to get married.
  9. He’s not interested in your future. You have a future with him (or you hope that you do), but what about your individual future? If he doesn’t give a damn about it, such as if you’re thinking about moving to a different state and he doesn’t even wonder how that would affect your relationship, then it’s clear he sees your future as being split in two and living out separately.
  10. He wants to test your compatibility. You’ve been dating this guy for what feels like ages so you know if you’re compatible, right? You don’t feel the need to test your compatibility, but he does. He might suggest you go on holiday together or live together for a while to see if it’s a good idea. What? If he’s serious and wants to be with you, he’s not going to suggest this. He’ll throw himself into being with you without overthinking it.
  11. He’s postponing your wedding date. Maybe he actually did propose to you, but you feel you can’t trust it because he’s postponed your wedding date. Perhaps even more than once. Why would someone do this unless there’s a really good reason like a tragedy in the family? If that’s not the case, then this guy is stalling for time – and wasting yours.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.