11 Signs You’re Better Off Single Than With Him

Being on your own can be super lonely, but you’re so much better off single than with someone who takes you for granted for just makes you unhappy in general. Even if you’re currently in a relationship, you might subconsciously want to be rolling solo or you might just be in a toxic relationship. Here are the signs that you should walk away and focus on yourself for a while.

  1. He doesn’t see the value in you. This one is pretty plain and simple. If you’re with someone who doesn’t cherish you and see you for the amazing woman you are, why are you wasting your time with him? You deserve to be with someone who appreciates you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
  2. He doesn’t care about your feelings. If you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t consider your feelings in situations and doesn’t stop and think how you would feel about something before doing it, that’s a huge sign that it’s time for you to walk away. The right person for you will consider you before they make any big decisions because you matter to them and they want to make sure that you are happy and taken care of at all times.
  3. He’s dishonest. Obviously, lying is damaging in all relationships but when we’re in denial about a person, we’ll often make excuses for their unacceptable behavior such as being dishonest. Do you really want to spend every night wondering if your guy is really at home like he said he was or trying to figure out the passcode to his phone because you just have to know if he’s hiding anything? Hard pass. You’ll be much happier enjoying a quiet evening to yourself, not worrying about any lying boyfriends.
  4. He makes you feel insignificant. In unhealthy relationships, one person will often make the other feel as if nothing that they do or say matters. It’s important to voice your opinions to each other but that’s only part of communication. How your partner responds to what you say is key and if they make you feel as if what you want and need is unimportant, or that they just don’t care to compromise with you, you are so much better off without them.
  5. He’s unmotivated. If your guy refuses to work on your relationship, makes no effort to do nice things for you, or just isn’t motivated in general with his life, you would be so much happier single and working on yourself. Why set yourself up for disappointment with a deadbeat boyfriend? Set your own goals and crush them. You’ll feel empowered and won’t need the attention of a man to shine.
  6. You don’t miss him when you’re apart. If you find yourself not noticing the time the two of you spend apart or if you prefer when you’re apart, that is a clear sign that you’re better off single than with him. When you’re in love with someone, you want to be around them as much as possible. Sure, you still value your alone time, but if you find yourself forgetting the last time you talked to him or the last time the two of you had a romantic date, you might just not be in the right headspace right now for a relationship and that’s totally okay!
  7. You have more fun doing things by yourself. Going along with being apart from your guy, if you find that you prefer doing most things alone, it might be a sign that you’re better off without him. Companionship is great, but everyone goes through a period of time where they just want to be by themselves, focusing on themselves, and doing things that they love to do. If you find yourself looking forward to your ‘you time’ more than an evening with your man, you might just be wanting your season of singleness.
  8. You can’t trust him. Along with the point of dishonesty, if you feel like you can’t trust the guy you’re with, you’re probably better off without him. Relationships that don’t contain mutual trust are bound for disaster. A lack of trust sparks arguments, accusations, and you will never feel fully comfortable around a partner that you don’t have confidence in.
  9. He tries to control you. If your partner thinks they have the right to dictate where you go, what you do, and how you live your life then you are so much better off without him. No one has the right to control your every move, especially your boyfriend who is supposed to support you and encourage you in everything you do. If you notice signs of him trying to commandeer your life and have the final say in every move you make, trust me, you will enjoy being free and single so much more, and the sooner you remove yourself from a situation like that, the better. You could be getting yourself out of a potentially abusive relationship.
  10. He’s mean. This one seems obvious but it isn’t always enough for someone to leave a relationship. If you’re dating someone who thinks it’s funny to bully or ridicule you, that is not okay. Sure, every couple jokes around but there is a huge difference between someone laughing with you and laughing at you. If he’s rude to you or anyone else for that matter. If he makes fun of you. If he holds things against you or doesn’t fight fair. You’re way too amazing to waste time with a guy who makes you feel bad or is just a mean person in general. Dump him, call your girlfriends, and have a single ladies’ party!
  11. You don’t feel like yourself with him. The right person for you, the one who will be worth your time and company, will never make you feel like you have to pretend to be someone you’re not or that you have to change to be what they want you to be. The right person will embrace every little thing about you and make you feel 100% comfortable in your own skin all the time. The person for you might even make you feel more comfortable with yourself because they will love every part of you, including the parts that you don’t love about yourself. If he doesn’t make you feel like you’re perfect exactly the way you are, you’re better off single and you should move on.
Shelby is a journalist and fiction writer raised in the South but built for the big city. She's a book nerd (well, an overall nerd, honestly) and coffee addict and obsessed with all things leather and lacy.

She has a bachelor’s degree in Mass Communication and Media Studies from Sam Houston State University and worked for her university newspaper, The Houstonian, as well as serving as a producer and part-time entertainment anchor for Cable 7 Huntsville. You can follow her on Twitter @shelby777.