11 Signs You’re Finally Over Your Ex For Good

A bad breakup can be one of the worst experiences of your life. A broken heart has brutal side effects, but you will get through it. If you’ve experienced these 11 things, you’re likely coming out the other end- even stronger than you were before.

  1. You’re totally over your super sad playlist. When you’re in the mood for some music, you no longer automatically go to your break up playlist. You can put on happy songs or party music, because part of you relates to those tracks again.
  2. You’ve lost the urge to check up on him on social. You happily scroll through your newsfeed without the slightest inclination to check up on your ex. You post whatever you feel like, without concerning yourself with how he might react.
  3. You feel excited about the future again. You’re starting to picture a happy future for yourself (one that doesn’t include him) or you’re feeling OK about the future being a mystery right now. Either way, you feel excited about what’s in store for you.
  4. You spend an entire day without running to your favorite vice. You’re no longer living at the gym, staying up with Netflix all night, or pouring whiskey down your throat the moment you get out of work. The pain is starting to ease up, so you can get through your day without needing an escape.
  5. You’re being productive, not just busy. You were keeping busy with work or friends mainly as a distraction, but now you’re actually being productive. You’re working towards a larger goal, because the future seems bright again.
  6. You’re slaying your new haircut/wardrobe/apartment reno. Breakups tend to be a transformative time. People get a new look, clean out their closets, or finally commit to one of the paint swatches that’s been up on their living room wall for 6 months. You love the new and improved you, because you shine brighter when you aren’t lost in a bad relationship.
  7. You feel a spark with someone new. You experience butterflies for the first time in forever. Sure- you’re probably not ready to jump into something serious, but it’s exciting to feel that spark with someone new.
  8. You’re OK with the fact that you’re not the same person you used to be. Breakups can change you forever. While it was nice to be naïve and carefree, you’re actually OK with the fact that the person you are now is wiser, stronger, and fiercer- even if it took heartbreak to get here.
  9. You feel confident standing alone. You no longer miss your old relationship or feel compelled to run into the arms of someone else. You’re comfortable being alone and independent, and you’re confident that you don’t need a boyfriend to get by in life.
  10. You feel whole again. You finally pieced back together the pieces of your shattered self. Sure, there may be some scars, but you no longer feel broken or incomplete.
  11. You feel hopeful about love. You know that it won’t happen today, or even any time remotely soon. You still have a lot of healing and growing to do, but you’re no longer committed to being alone forever. There’s a sense of hope for love in the future, and you’re sure that one day you’ll be ready to try again when someone amazing comes into your life.
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.