11 Signs You’re The Girl Guys Count On Settling Down With

Do you find yourself getting called “girlfriend” without even looking for something serious? You might just be lucky or you might be what guys consider “the marriage type.” Whether they want to admit it or not, most guys know fairly early on whether or not they consider you to be someone they can see themselves with long-term, and you definitely are.

  1. You’re never the girl they call for a one-night stand even when you actually would be down for it. Most guys will be fairly quick to call up any girl they’re seeing for a quickie, but not if that girl is someone they’d want to bring home to their mom someday. This can be frustrating since sometimes you really DO want to have sex without strings attached. (Hey, at least you know you won’t have an issue finding some serious commitment, right?)
  2. Whenever you start dating a new guy, he always almost immediately introduces you to his family. The truth is that most guys will wait a while before this happens. If the guys you date are often ready to bring you home to Mom right off the bat, you strike men as the type of girl they marry rather than just casually date. Sure, it can be a little overwhelming if they jump the gun too soon, it’s just that they can’t help but get excited by your long-term potential.
  3. You appear straight-laced at first glance. This is more of a subjective observation, but I notice that a large percentage of guys tend to see the girls who look the most conservative as wife material. It makes sense, considering that guys tend to marry women they feel would make good mothers to their kids. However, appearances certainly aren’t everything and they don’t necessarily indicate the type of people those women actually are.
  4. Guys tend to be on their best behavior around you. You know guys respect you when they suddenly start acting gentlemanly whenever you walk into the room. This is doubly true if you notice that the guy you’re dating typically doesn’t treat women well but treats you like a total queen. The reason is that he’s decided that he respects you enough to warrant that level of manners. That being said, a guy who doesn’t treat ALL women with dignity and respect is a loser, hands down.
  5. You have a reputation for kindness and loyalty. These two traits are often the biggest things guys look for in a potential spouse. They want a kind, warm, and loving wife who won’t cheat on them. If you have a reputation for having both those traits in spades, you’ll probably end up being filed into the “wifey” category.
  6. None of your exes’ parents hated you. Yes, most guys will go for the girl who would make their parents smile. If a guy’s mom really likes you, chances are that he’s basically convinced that you’re a girl to marry rather than just see casually. Also, if this applies to you, congratulations on being able to accomplish the nearly impossible since most ladies out there tend to have problems with in-laws.
  7. You can argue without fighting. Believe it or not, guys do value communication in a relationship even if it doesn’t seem that way at first. Most men really respect a woman who can argue a point without the argument turning into shouting, name-calling, or drama. When a guy is looking at a girl to be in a long-term relationship with, how she communicates her needs to him makes a world of difference. If you can’t argue a point without turning into an emotional wreck, or worse, if you just expect him to pick up on cues, chances are you’re not the type of girl guys want to marry.
  8. You have a backbone and aren’t afraid to use it. Girls who never say “no” to a guy or do everything for them in hopes a guy will “see the light” are not the ones guys choose to marry. Why? Because no one, male or female, likes a doormat. When you don’t stand up for yourself, guys see that as low-value and will end up treating you as such. That’s why most guys tend to respect women who stand up for themselves and walk away more than the ride or die girlfriends they’ve had in the past.
  9. You’re actually open to love. Have you ever met someone who seems to have chosen to be closed off to the prospects of dating anyone at all? It’s not a good vibe. It’s icy. That’s why guys tend to want to marry women who would be open to receiving their affection rather than ice queens.
  10. You’re down-to-earth and can hold your own in life. Guys don’t want to have to be the voice of reason all the time. They also don’t want to have to be the providers, the maids, and the carers for a woman. If you prove that you’ve got common sense, that you can support yourself, and that you also are a down-to-earth individual, most guys will be attracted to you simply because they know they don’t have to babysit you.
  11. Most people go to you when they want a taste of sanity. Look, adventurous women are sexy… but only for a short time. Guys don’t marry wild types because, at the end of the day, they want to relax and have mellow, sane fun. If you’re the person people go to in order to get that relaxed sense of sanity, congrats. You’re probably the type of girl most guys want to marry.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.