11 Signs You’re Wasting Your Life On The Relationship You’re In

No one wants to hear that they’re wasting their time on the person they’re dating, especially if they’ve already invested months or even years into the relationship. However, it’s better to know as soon as possible so you can do something about it. Here are 11 signs you’re wasting your time and life on the person you’re dating. Time to move on, ladies.

  1. You feel lonely. If you’re with someone who’s not meeting your needs, whether in terms of communication, affection, attention, or anything else, you can end up feeling lonely. Over time, you’ll become more aware of the fact that you can find someone who does you justice, which will just make you feel more depressed unless you take action and leave.
  2. You’re keeping quiet. Do you share what’s on your mind with your partner? Do you share your feelings no matter how nuts they might sound in your head? If you can’t do these things with your partner, you’re wasting your chance to be who you really are.
  3. You’re not getting support. You should be supported by your partner when you go through bad times, yes, but also when it comes to pursuing your goals. If that’s not happening and they’re standing in the way of your dreams, then you’re missing out on opportunities to live the life you want.
  4. Your goals clash. While you and your partner will always have your own individual dreams and goals, it helps if they’re sort of heading in the same direction. If that’s not the case and your partner’s always prioritizing their goals instead of yours, then yours could end up on the back-burner. You’ll have to decide if your relationship is more important than your life’s mission. Yeah, that’s what I thought.
  5. You’re dreaming of greener grass. If you compare your relationship with others and feel that yours is lacking, that’s sure to make you daydream of better, more satisfying relationships. This is a clear warning sign that you’re with the wrong person.
  6. You’re always arguing. While some fighting can be healthy for your relationship if you learn how to fight fair, you shouldn’t be with someone with whom you’re always getting tangled in the verbal boxing ring. All this drama will weigh you down and make you wonder what you’re doing this for.
  7. You’ve isolated yourself. While social distancing is important at times, like when there’s a virus doing the rounds, if you’re isolating yourself from loved ones because of your relationship, that’s a big problem. There’s no doubt that being around your BFFs is what makes life so much more enjoyable. Don’t deny yourself those valuable connections. You’ll regret it.
  8. You’re rushing out to other people. On the flip side, if you’re not pushing loved ones away, you might be trying to spend as much time with them as you can instead of with your partner. That’s a huge red flag indicating that you’re secretly unhappy with your relationship.
  9. You’re restless. You might be feeling bored and itching to do fun things, and perhaps it’s because your relationship isn’t really making you feel anything these days. These desires are usually signs from your body that you need to be living a more satisfying life. And maybe it’s not meant to be with your partner.
  10. The future makes you panic. When you think of the future with your partner, do you feel butterflies and excitement or do you feel a panic attack coming on? If it’s the latter, that’s a clear sign you’re viewing your LTR as a prison sentence instead of something amazing. What’s the point of being in it?
  11. You don’t trust them. Maybe they’ve cheated on you before and you just couldn’t move past it. Or, they just give you a shady feeling that they can’t be trusted. Whatever the case, it’s important to listen to that feeling. If you spend your life not trusting your partner, you’ll always be waiting for something bad to happen and that’s no way to live your beautiful life. You should be with someone who makes you feel happy and comfortable.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.