11 Embarrassing Stages You Go Through When Your BFF Gets A New Friend

Your best friend is your one and only, your soulmate, your confidant. The two of you are always on the same page and nothing can break that bond. But when she starts getting close to someone else — like, best friend close — there are a few not-so-flattering stages you go through as you learn how to share your BFF.

  1. Who’s this bitch? When you start to notice your BFF and her new friend tagging each other in funny inside jokes, your first reaction is to wonder who the hell this girl is and why the hell they’re laughing together all of a sudden. This level of jealousy towards your BFF’s new friendship isn’t fun and you don’t like it — or her new friend, even though you don’t even know her — one bit.
  2. I don’t like her. Immediately you hate this girl. The way she dresses all trendy and makes your BFF laugh, well, you’re just not having it. She’s YOUR best friend, so this other girl needs to back off.
  3. She’s probably a backstabbing bitch. You try to talk to your BFF about her new friend to get intel on how this girl operates. You’re convinced she isn’t as cool and nice as she says she is and it’s bound to come out eventually, so really, you’re just trying to protect your BFF, right?
  4. She still loves me more… obviously. You try to reassure yourself that nothing and no one could come between your best friend bond. You’ve been through everything together and no one — no matter how fabulous — could ever ruin that. It’s all good.
  5. They’re probably just Facebook friends. You try to deny the fact that they could actually be friends outside of their online tags because if they start hanging out more than she hangs out with you, you’re going to be pissed. Who does this new girl think she is anyway, coming in to steal your best friend? Can’t she get her own?
  6. They’re making a lot of plans. Seeing your BFF and her new friend make tons of exciting plans on Facebook is like taking a knife to the back. Why doesn’t she want you there? Where the hell is your invite? It’s starting to piss you off that when you asked her to play a round of golf she wasn’t into it but here they are booking a tee time. You used to do everything together and now this girl is cutting into your quality time?
  7. I’m losing her. The more they hang out, the less you do and you’re starting to wonder if you’re being replaced. You thought that you two were best friends forever but it really feels like you’re out of the loop now. How could she do this?
  8. I’m just going to join them. Whenever they make plans, you ask your BFF if you can join them. You’re not just going to give your friend away and if there’s anything you can do to make this new girl see just how close you are, you’ll do it.
  9. Maybe we can all be friends. After hanging out with your BFF and her new friend, you realize that although they’re getting close, they’re bond is nowhere near as strong as yours and this new girl kinda starts to grow on you. She’s actually pretty cool and can get backstage passes pretty much anywhere, so she may just be good to have around.
  10. I need to relax. When you finally realize that you’ve overreacted a little bit and accept that you can both have outside friends without your friendship being affected, you can start to calm down the green-eyed monster a little bit. There’s nothing less appealing than jealousy, so you manage to drop the crazy.
  11. We’ll be best friends forever and nothing can change that. She may have other friends, but so do you. The fact is, though, is that you and your BFF have a special bond for a reason. There’s no one that can change that because of what you’ve been through, your deep connection and the fact that neither of you are willing to let anyone come between you. There’s really nothing to worry about.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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