When it comes to scoping out perspective men, it’s easy to wonder if he’s putting up a front just to charm you or if he’s actually a genuine person. If you’ve ever been on the fence about if he’s a decent human being, pay attention to the following to really understand his true personality.
- He holds the door for other people, not just you. A genuine guy instinctively holds the door for anyone, and he doesn’t make an elaborate point of doing so. It’s just good manners. A guy who makes a grand swoosh to reach for the door is expecting you to be impressed with his doorman skills alone. Next.
- He has a love for animals. Even if it’s just a habit of tagging you in a million puppy Instagrams, it shows he has the ability to care for another living thing. Adopting a pet is a selfless act, so when a guy can go out of his way to care for a dog, you can bet he’s going to be able to care about you and empathize with your feelings.
- He doesn’t insult you. Cursing isn’t a deal-breaker, but if a guy feels comfortable with saying “screw you,” even jokingly, what will he say to you in the heat of a fight? Probably something a lot worse.
- He doesn’t hold back from mentioning his family. For a lot of guys, mentioning family to a significant other can feel like a trap. If you mention your parents, does that mean he wants you to meet them? Or does having lunch with his sister make your relationship more serious? A guy who doesn’t mind mentioning his family is secure enough to not overthink things and is more likely to place importance on family values.
- He refrains from talking crap about people in front of you. A kind-hearted guy won’t feel the need to rip apart his co-workers, friends, or anyone else in front of you. Sure, he can vent to you, but when he starts talking about how annoying his best friend is, that’s a red flag. It only goes to show that he’ll have no problem talking negatively about you to other people.
- He treats servers/bartenders/drivers with respect. A guy who doesn’t have an issue with treating a waiter or waitress like garbage will have no problem treating you like garbage down the road. A good guy knows that just because he’s paying them, it doesn’t give him a pass to be impolite.
- He makes good eye contact. Guys who have trouble making eye contact either lack self-esteem or missed the memo on good etiquette. If he has trouble looking you in the eye, it could be a sign that he’s either hiding something or just not into you.
- He’s a good listener. When you’re talking about something you’re passionate about or if you’ve just had a long day at work, does he just nod and glance at his phone, or is he actually replying back to what you’re saying? A genuine guy will be able to provide you with more than just a “that sucks, I’m sorry.”
- He’s not a whiner. Unless something truly awful happened to him, he shouldn’t unload you with every tiny thing that goes wrong. If he has to open his mouth every time something doesn’t go his way, it’s a sign that he’ll probably always drown you in his negativity.
- He has a plan for his future. Any half-decent guy will at least have an idea of what he wants to do down the road. A guy with a plan shows that he’s able to think long-term and plan ahead. He doesn’t need to be ultra-ambitious, but he needs to have his life at least somewhat mapped out.
- He has solid relationships with his friends. Does he actually have a few friends he can depend on? Has he kept the same friendships over the years? A guy who has very few friends or seems to always be changing squads is a sign that he may be difficult to deal with.
