11 Things We Want From The Guys Who Broke Our Hearts

11 Things We Want From The Guys Who Broke Our Hearts ©iStock/themacx

Saying breakups are hard would be an understatement, but there are a few things our exes could do to make them a hell of a lot easier on all us. We want to leave the past behind and move on to bigger and better things, but before we do, there are just few things we want from the boys who broke our hearts:

  1. A damn apology. Is that so much to ask? They broke our hearts — the least they can do is apologize for it. We can’t blame them for falling out of love with us, but they should still be sorry about it. They may not want to be with us anymore but they could have let us down easy rather than shattering us apart. What we really want is for them to muster up even the tiniest bit of compassion, but they can’t seem to even do that.
  2. For them to tell us why. They owe us an explanation for our breakups, but we’ll probably never get the real reasons. We don’t want their BS excuses — we can handle the truth, for goodness’ sake. Being hurt by honesty is so much better than having to obsessively wonder what went wrong. All we wanted was an honest breakup. Doesn’t sound like we were asking too much…
  3. To know when everything changed. When was the exact moment they stopped loving us? How long were we acting like fools, thinking that everything was fine in our relationships? One day they were promising us that we’d be together forever and the next they just changed their minds? Unacceptable. We need to know when they stopped believing in our love stories before every memory we have is tainted.
  4. For them to take their time moving on. Is it really that bad for us to want them to have a mourning process? For them to wallow a little bit like we did and actually give the appearance that some part of them is sad our relationships didn’t work out? Instead they choose to hook up with the very next girl who walks their way. As if we didn’t feel bad enough when they dumped us already, they had to go and make us feel as if our relationships meant nothing to them when it meant everything to us. BS.
  5. To admit they treated us poorly. The damage is done, but they should at least admit to their wrongdoings. Seriously, all we wanted was some recognition. Instead, they just keep living in denial, believing that no matter what we said, they were good boyfriends. They are dead wrong and we know it, but the fact that they won’t admit it makes it feel a lot less true.
  6. Some damn closure. We just wanted to close the book on our love stories but they left the ending wide open. We wanted answers to our questions so we could put the final nail in the coffin of our relationships. We wanted to close off all hope of ever being together again and to learn from the mistakes we both made but they couldn’t even give us that. Pathetic.
  7. To feel like our relationship actually meant something. Once upon a time this love story was more of a fairytale and less of a tragedy. There may have been a lot of bad times, but there were good times too. We want to put the past in the past, but still be able to look back and know that at one point in time we really did love each other. Regardless of how it ended, our relationships meant something — at least, they did to us.
  8. Our stuff back. After a breakup, we want your stuff gone — out of sight is out of mind — yet ex-boyfriends seem to want to hold our things hostage. They want nothing to do with us but they still can’t find the time to return our belongings. We don’t have to see each other. It doesn’t have to be some big ordeal. Just drop our stuff at the doorstep and we’ll never have to make contact again. Is that so much to ask?
  9. For them to lose our numbers. They moved on pretty damn fast, but when things go south with the next girl, all of a sudden they feel the need to come crawling back? No thank you. We don’t want to hear about how you miss us or reminisce about the good old days. We’re trying to move on and the only way we’ll be able to do that is if our exes finally let go.
  10. For them to give the breakup sex propositions a rest. They broke our hearts but they think they are still entitled to our bodies? No way. I don’t know if they didn’t get the memo, but when you break up with someone you break up with every part of them, physically and emotionally. We deserve a hell of a lot more from them than a drunk text asking if they can sleep with us one last time. They can find a new booty calls because we’re done.
  11. To accept that no, we can’t be friends. They put us through hell and they have the tenacity to ask if we can still be friends. They might think the transition from lover to friends is easy but not when despite everything, we’re still in love with them. In order to move on, we need them completely out of our lives. They broke our hearts and that means they don’t deserve our friendship. If only they realized that.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.