Breaking up with a guy that’s kept you miserable in love for an extended period of time can be the easiest decision in the world or the hardest, depending on how tired you are of putting up with his BS. When you do finally take that plunge into freedom and decide to take your happiness back, you’re bound to have these thoughts:
- “Did I make a mistake?” The first feeling you have when breaking up with a guy that treated you like crap is regret. You question whether or not your feelings were valid because he tore you down to the point where you can’t even trust yourself and your own decisions.
- “Am I really worthy of someone better?” It will cross your mind that maybe you were getting treated like crap because that was the type of love you deserved. Although you soon realize that it’s quite the opposite, you’ll always have that moment of self-doubt.
- “On to the next one.” When you start feeling like yourself again, you start scanning for new flames. It’s easier to bury the fact that you’re devastated over losing someone who should be easy to get over than deal with it head on.
- “I’ll never find love again.” When you put yourself out there but aren’t ready to date, nothing is going to work, so you start toying with the idea that maybe you’ll never love again. Even though it’s not true, you can’t help but wonder.
- “How could I ever have loved that loser?” You finally get to the point where your confidence is coming back bit by bit and you start feeling angry toward yourself for being infatuated with someone so awful. He was a loser, so accepting you were the one that chose him is infuriating.
- “Maybe I was in the wrong.” You’ll eventually circle back from anger to sadness because, yes, you did love him and in all his loser glory. The period of questioning yourself has come back full force, but this time it doesn’t last as long.
- “Screw that guy, I’m awesome.” After time passes, you’re back to your old self again and you finally realize that it was his loss, not yours. This is one of the best post-breakup thoughts you get to experience, because you realize that not only were you right about him, he was wrong about you.
- “No more relationships for me.” A fear of love comes creeping in because although you’re confident in who you are, you’re not so sure about other people. You’re trust in potential partners has been skewed because of the loser you dated, so you swear them off to work on yourself.
- “I just need a good hookup buddy.” You’re a woman, and you like a good sex session just as much as the next guy. When you finally want to jump back into bed with someone, the fear is still present and you’re convinced that a casual relationship will be the best thing for you.
- “Am I really OK with never being in love again?” Casual dating can be fun, but the absence of intimacy starts to weigh on you. You know you swore off serious relationships, but you’re almost certain you’ve changed your mind.
- “Not all guys are the same.” You stop looking at every guy as an loser who’s just out to break your heart. This time around, you promise to have higher standards and realize that just because your ex was a piece of crap doesn’t mean the next guy will be.
