11 Undeniable Truths About Being A Single Woman In 2022

Love it or hate it, the single life is certainly a unique experience. There are some wonderful parts of being single, and then a few crappy things that come with the territory too. Here are 11 undeniable truths about being a single woman in 2022.

  1. People will feel sorry for you. Our society equates happiness with being in love. So if you’re single, people automatically assume you’re not happy and they feel sorry for you. Get used to comments shrouded in sympathy and looks of pity. Society also pushes the idea that women in particular should pursue love, marriage, and children above everything else in life. But if you don’t have those things as a woman, people still tend to assume you must want them. And then they look at you with pity because you don’t have them. No matter how happy you are to be single, there will be people who can’t comprehend that you’re fine rolling solo.
  2. They’ll ask you why you’re single. When you’re a single woman in 2022, some people will ask you why you’re single, without realizing the question may be insensitive. A lot of single women find the question to be rude, even if they are happy to be single because the question assumes that you can’t possibly want to be single, so if you are, there must be a pressing reason why. This question is a politer way of saying, “What’s so wrong with you that you aren’t in a relationship?”
  3. Your friends will try and set you up. Your friends will try to set you up when you’re a single woman, whether or not you want them to. Sometimes they’ll set you up with people that are great for you. Other times, they’ll set you up with people are terrible matches and everything becomes super awkward. A shocking amount of people think it’s better to be with the wrong person than be alone. So with the best intentions, your friends will try to get you together with absolutely anyone. And while it’s a nice gesture, it can also be a slap in the face when they set you up with someone who couldn’t be worse for you.
  4. You’ll have more time for your career. One of the best parts about being a single woman? You’ll have more time for your career (and other things that are important to you). That’s not to say that being in a relationship stops you from pursuing other goals. But it’s a simple fact that there are 24 hours in a day. If you’re spending most of those with a partner, nurturing your relationship, you’re not spending them on other goals. Newly single women might be pleasantly surprised with how much extra time they have to do what they like with.
  5. You’ll feel unfair societal pressure. As mentioned, society tends to push the idea of marriage and babies down women’s throats. So even if you want to stay single, you may feel pressure to just settle down. Because of this pressure, a lot of women feel like they’re not on the right path unless they’re heading towards being a wife and a mom. And this can lead you to give in to the pressure and get into a relationship, even if you don’t really want to.
  6. You won’t be celebrated like your married friends are. Carrie Bradshaw hit the nail on the head: “If you are single after graduation, there isn’t one occasion where people celebrate you.” Particularly if all your friends are married or pregnant, you’ll probably feel like your whole life is spent celebrating other people. Your weekends become a flurry of engagement parties, bridal showers, weddings, and baby showers. And your achievements as a single person, whether they’re in relation to your career or anything else, seem to pale in comparison.
  7. Some people will feel threatened by you. Sadly, some people feel threatened by singletons. As a single woman, you might find that people in relationships act strangely if you socialize with their partners, even on a totally innocent level. Because you don’t have your own partner, some people assume you must be out to get theirs and all logic goes out the window.
  8. You’ll have space for other important relationships. Another positive aspect of being single is having space for other important relationships in your life. Sometimes, romantic relationships can take up a lot of a person’s life to the point where they neglect their family and friends. But when you’re single, you tend to have more time for the other people in your life. If you’re a newly single woman, you might find that your other relationships improve in the months following your breakup.
  9. You’ll probably use dating apps. Single women in 2022 will probably use a dating app sooner or later. Whether you’re looking for the love of your life or a casual fling, the allure of dating apps is too intriguing for most to pass up. And if your friends are partnered up, prepare for them to jump on your app any chance they get, just to get a glimpse of what it’s like.
  10. You might feel hopeless about finding love. Dating apps, bad blind dates, terrible setups, and comments of pity can all lead to you feeling hopeless about ever finding love. Single life has a lot of benefits. But because our society is geared towards couples, it does take a thick skin to last on your own. Society can get to you and make you feel inadequate about being single. And hopeless about finding a relationship in the future. It’s okay to have those moments of weakness as long as you stand back up again.
  11. You’ll learn that you can be complete on your own. The best thing about being single is that you’ll learn you are complete on your own. A lot of people fear being alone so much that they spend their whole lives hopping from relationship to relationship. Or staying in relationships that are terrible for them. But you already are alone. And you realize that you’re not dead, broken, or miserable—even if you have hard days. You learn that if you have to be alone, now or in the future, you can do it, and there’s nothing more liberating. As a single person, you learn how to make yourself happy and fulfil your own needs without relying on anyone else.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including Hotsprings.co and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.