11 Warning Signs Your Boyfriend Is A Little Too Friendly With Your Friends

You want your boyfriend to make a great first impression on your friends so that they like him and you all get along, but there’s a major difference between him being friendly and being flirty. If your boyfriend is guilty of these 11 behaviors, you’re right to feel uncomfortable and even a little creeped out. In fact, they probably don’t bode well for the relationship as a whole.

  1. He stares at them a lot. He might be doing this with one friend or he could do it with a few of them. Maybe he’s staring at them flirtatiously or sexually and it just feels wrong. In fact, it is wrong, so he has to realize how it’s affecting you. It’s not the kind of behavior you should accept from your boyfriend.
  2. He makes flirtatious jokes. When your friend suggests that you should all go swimming, your boyfriend says that your friend should put on a tiny bikini or even try skinny dipping. Uh, what? It just feels like his “jokes” have a serious – and disturbing – flirtatious tone to them. So creepy!
  3. He thinks your friend is adorable. When you tell your boyfriend about how one of your friends really irritates you sometimes, he’ll laugh and say that she’s cute or adorable. Um, what?! He really didn’t have to share that sentiment, thanks. Why doesn’t he ever describe you that way?
  4. He asks if they’re joining you guys on your date. When you hang out with your boyfriend and do something fun, he might ask if your friends – or one specific friend of yours – will be joining you. He might even express disappointment when she isn’t at a social outing. After a while, it will start to feel like he’s more interested in hanging out with your besties than you.
  5. He’s always willing to help. It’s great to have a boyfriend who’ll treat your friends like his friends and care about them. It’s usually said to be a sign that the guy is worth dating. However, it’s another thing completely if he’s always quick to offer them support and he’s always jumping in to offer his services. What’s he trying to prove and why is he going so over the top?
  6. He adds them on social media immediately. He met your friends once, then found them on social media and sent them friend requests. Yikes. For starters, it’s a bit awkward for him to do this if he hasn’t really got to know them. It’s also inappropriate if he hasn’t asked you if it’s cool for him to do that because it means he’s trying to get a little too familiar with your loved ones too fast.
  7. He becomes super charming around them. When you’re alone, he’s not that witty or charming. Around your friends, on the other hand, he’s always making jokes and being the life of the party. It’s clear that he’s putting on a show.
  8. He zones you out. When you’re out with your best friends, your boyfriend usually doesn’t give you a lot of attention. It’s all about your friends and himself – he’s super interested in being the funniest, most interesting person at the table. The result is that you end up having an average time while he’s having the time of his life. It’s really not fair.
  9. Or, he acts like boyfriend of the year. On the other hand, he might try to seem like the most attentive and amazing partner to you when your friends are around. It’s like he’s putting in lots of effort to make them think he’s such an incredible partner but isn’t doing any of the work behind the scenes to back that up. Ugh. The worst part about this is that it feels so fake because you know what he’s really like when they’re not around.
  10. He becomes their dating coach. When he’s around your friends, he tries to be their number-one cheerleader and wise dating coach. So, he’ll listen to their dating problems and give them advice. He seems to want to be their shoulder to cry on, but really he’s desperate to be liked and he loves getting attention from other women.
  11. He invites himself to your outings. When you’re having a girls’ night out, who turns up unannounced and uninvited? Your boyfriend. Sure, it’s fun to have him around, but it’s not cool if he’s always inviting himself to your outings with your friends. He just likes them a little too much for his (and your) own good.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.