11 Ways Extroverts Date Differently

Extroverts are charismatic, intellectual, and thrive off connections. We’re the people’s people and we work hard to make everyone around us happy. With that said, we’re not always the easiest to date. So, before you get with an extrovert, make sure you know these 11 things.

  1. We Never Settle. We don’t settle for less than what we deserve. If we’re dating you, it’s because we want to. We’re not bored or lonely or looking to get over an ex; we’re careful about who we let in and that should make you feel confident about the relationship. As long as you put in the work, we will too.
  2. We Can Be Harsh. If we like you, you’ll know it. If we hate you, you’ll know it. We aren’t afraid to share our feelings loudly and effectively. You might not like our honesty, but at least you’ll never be in the dark about where you stand. Extroverts are honest to a fault and we don’t like to hide things. The good news is, we don’t just create problems — we work to resolve them. If there’s animosity, it won’t last long.
  3. We’re Annoyingly Inquisitive. We’re excellent communicators and we’ll turn you into one too (whether you like it or not). You’ll never have a boring conversation when you’re dating an extrovert. We ask thought-provoking questions and we make you answer them. In the beginning, you’ll hate it, but you’ll grow to love our intrusive interrogations. In fact, it’ll become one of our most attractive qualities.
  4. We Don’t Really Understand Introverts. If you’re an introvert, you need to let us know. That doesn’t mean we’re always going to understand your need for solitude, but we’ll try. The good news is we don’t mind taking the lead and making plans elsewhere when you need time alone. Just make sure it’s clear your need for space has nothing to do with us. If we think you’re losing interest, we’ll freak out.
  5. We’re Not Sex Critics. For us, sex is about the experience and emotion, not so much the act itself. We like to have fun in the bedroom. Whether we’re trying something new or hysterically laughing through it all, you’ll always enjoy yourself. And even though we’re considered harsh critics, we make our partners feel safe and comfortable. Regardless of your size or how long you last, we won’t judge you.
  6. We Have High Expectations. It’s true that we like to take charge and control situations, but we also expect you to speak up if something doesn’t feel right. We never want the people we love to feel uncomfortable, but we’re not psychics (and we’re not always paying close attention). Dating an extrovert means you need to know yourself well enough to say “no” to our nuts ideas.
  7. We Are Who We Are. Is there something you want to know? Go ahead and ask. Extroverts are open books: we don’t really have any secrets. Plus, we love to talk. We welcome your questions. Just keep in mind that our answers will never be one syllable. We don’t do simple yes and no answers. Be prepared for a lengthy conversation no matter how simple the question.
  8. We Like To Try New Things. Extroverts are easily bored, which is why we’re always coming up with new ideas. Dating us means you need to be ready for anything. We might wake up one day and decide to redecorate our apartment, book a flight overseas, or quit our job. You need to be able to go with the flow when dating an extrovert. If you can’t, you won’t be able to handle our ever-changing minds.
  9. We Won’t Rely On You For Everything. Extroverts are popular. Period. We have a lot of friends and strangers are naturally drawn to our charisma. That means we won’t be planning our schedules around yours—just the opposite. But that doesn’t mean you’ll be left out of the fun. Oh no! We actually expect you to go everywhere with us.
  10. We’re Really Friendly. One thing you need to understand about extroverts is that we love people. We get our energy from spending time with our friends, family, and strangers. In a nutshell, we’re friendly. But if you’re insecure, you might mistake our kindness for flirtiness. It’s true, we like to have all eyes on us, but that doesn’t mean we want to sleep with everyone we talk to. Remember: If we’re with you, it’s because we want you.
  11. We’re More Interested In Values. Contrary to popular belief, we don’t want to date ourselves. Extroverts might be drawn to happy and positive people. But that’s because they typically share similar values. We can date introverts, highly sensitives, whoever! We don’t care. The only thing we need in a relationship is a connection. If you can give us that, we’re sold.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.