When you’re just getting to know a guy and you really like him, it’s only natural to want to go all-in right away and lock him down. However, it’s important to slow down and leave him wanting more to make those early stages that much more exciting and enjoyable. Not sure how to do it? Here are a few tips.
- Hang up the phone. You don’t want to be rude, but it’s good to end conversations, whether on the phone or via text, a little sooner than you want. Don’t talk on the phone for hours even though it’s tons of fun. You don’t want the chat to reach a boring stage because that’s what you’ll leave him with. Instead, end the chat when things are on a high note. He’ll be waiting for the next time he can talk to you.
- Keep dates short and sweet. The same thing goes with your dates. Yes, it’s awesome to be able to spend hours with him, but if you’ve just met the guy, you don’t want to give everything away on your dates. Make him crave you by ending the date after about an hour or two. This will encourage him to make plans for when he can see you again.
- Don’t move your schedule around. It’s tempting to want to juggle your life so that you can spend time with him, but it’s good to show him you have a life. Your life is important and you shouldn’t neglect it. This is not only healthy, but it will make him work harder to be a part of your life.
- Don’t always be there. Linked to the previous point, it’s a good idea to make yourself a little less available to him at times. If you’re always saying yes to dates and what he wants to do, then you’re going to seem like you have no life and are waiting around for him.
- Make your dates fun. If you’re taking the lead and planning some dates make sure you plan really cool ones that you’ll both enjoy. You can only have so many coffee dates before they become a yawn fest. Think out the box and tailor the dates to your personalities and interests as that will make them memorable. The more memorable and unique, the more he’ll want to have more of them.
- Stop after the kiss. There’s nothing wrong with having sex on the first (or any) date you please, but if you want to build something with this guy, it can be beneficial to build the fire instead of just jumping into it. It’s all about the slow burn! So, give him a hot kiss but don’t invite him into your home. He’ll be dying to see you again, and this will make your connection so much more intense.
- Keep things light. If you’re just getting to know the guy, you don’t want to overwhelm him with too much seriousness. When you laugh together and enjoy time with each other, this will make him leave every date feeling positive. He’ll be drawn to you. So, hold off on asking him if he wants kids until you know him better.
- Make your questions count. Everyone wants to feel that their date is interested in getting to know what they’re really about, so ask him deep and interesting questions that will make him see you’re not only interested in him but his life and mind. This will also make him enjoy your conversations.
- Let him picture you. Instead of sending a guy half-naked photos of you (you never know where those pics will end up, so don’t do it), be smarter with your flirts. Guys are visual creatures, so you want to let them picture what you’re doing. A simple text along the lines of, “So hot and sweaty after my workout, need to have a shower, chat to you later” will be enough to make him think of you and crave you.
- Surprise him. Once in a while, surprising him with something different, like a hiking date or cooking him his favorite meal, will keep him on his toes in a good way. He’ll see that you’re a bit unpredictable and make things fun, plus are making an effort with him, so you’ll win on all counts.
- Be a bit mysterious. When you’re chatting about your day, don’t give him TMI – that’s boring. Give him some information to make him interested and then he’ll ask you follow-up questions to find out more. You should always try to keep him hanging onto your every word.
