12 Dating Mistakes The Best Women Never Make

Confident women are a special breed. If you’re one of them, you know your self-worth and you act like it in every aspect of your life, and especially in dating. They know better than to do these 12 things in dating — and you should follow suit.

  1. They don’t try to control every little thing. Confident women trust the unfolding of the universe. They’re aware of how little control over world they truly have over many things, so they don’t fight against life events or try to manipulate a bunch of outcomes way out of their reach because they know it’s no use. Instead, they just buckle up and enjoy the ride. That’s not to say they don’t take control where necessary, but they definitely know how to pick their battles.
  2. They don’t need or seek constant validation. Confident women know their worth and wouldn’t sacrifice it for the world. They know how amazing they are, so they don’t require others to tell them all the time. Sure, they love a compliment here and there, who doesn’t? The difference is that they don’t need constant validation to feel good about themselves. That positive affirmation comes from within.
  3. They don’t compare themselves to others. Confident women have strong internal wells of self-love. They know at their core how lovable and awesome they are. They build themselves up by continuing to boost their self-esteem through doing esteemable acts. They don’t need to look at other women and compare themselves to see how they’re doing. They know they don’t need to put down other women to feel good because they’re already good.
  4. They don’t allow themselves to be easily influenced by peer pressure. Confident women have a solid sense of self. They know who they are and it’s nearly impossible to shake them away from that. They don’t cave when others are prodding them to do something that goes against their values. They aren’t that easy to convince because they stick to what’s true for them.
  5. They don’t gossip. Confident women feel sure about themselves and believe in treating others with respect and a basic level of kindness, so they’re not into gossiping or talking crap. There’s a quote from an unknown author that says, “Gossip dies when it hits a wise person’s ears.” Confident women are wise women and they don’t continue the spread of petty talk. Instead, it dies at their ears.
  6. They don’t slut-shame other women. Confident women stand in solidarity with other women. They’re aware that they can choose kindness or maliciousness, and the former is always the winner. Confident women don’t belittle others for their choices in attire or sexual activity. They know that slut-shaming does the world absolutely no good and it only indicates insecurity in the person doing the shaming.
  7. They don’t bottle up their feelings. Confident women are in tune with their feelings, thoughts, and actions. They have a good pulse on why they do the things they do. This is because they don’t bottle up their feelings and hide them away. Rather, they’re brave enough to process their emotions and deal with them head-on, no matter how uncomfortable doing so might be.
  8. They don’t neglect their needs. Confident women know what’s going on for them and take actions that best serve them. They do their best to never let their needs go unmet. In romantic relationships as well as friendships, they always ask for what they need and demand that they get it. They don’t let people walk all over them. Instead, they preserve their dignity by leaving if they’re being mistreated.
  9. They don’t disregard their intuitions. Confident women are plugged right into their intuitions. Their gut instincts communicate everything they need to know to them. They don’t disregard the signals they get from their intuition. They trust their own gut over trusting others around them and this never leads them astray.
  10. They don’t see the glass as half empty. Confident women see the glass as half full. They aren’t ones to have a pessimistic lens. Rather, they see the world with a positive perspective. This carries them through hard times and good times because they aren’t coloring the world darker than it needs to be.
  11. They don’t avoid opportunities to fail. Confident women aren’t scared at the prospect of failing. They know that failure means that someone has tried whereas never failing means they’re missing out on opportunities to live life. Confident women fail all the time because they’re out there giving new things a shot every day.
  12. They aren’t afraid to be alone. Confident women aren’t terrified by the idea of being by themselves. You won’t find them in mediocre or toxic relationships because they’d rather be alone than with the wrong person. In fact, confident women often spend periods of time by themselves because they know it shapes them into a better people, friends, and lovers.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at ginelletesta.com.