12 Questions To Ask Your Dating App Match When Their Profile Is Vague

Online dating can be really difficult, especially when you feel like you’re not making many connections. However, it’s possible that the right person may have actually passed you by without you realizing it. Some people don’t accurately fill out their profiles or even know what to say. That means that the right person who shares a ton of chemistry with you may be right under your nose – you just need to do a bit of extra digging. Here are some questions to ask them that’ll reveal more.

  1. What’s your favorite local restaurant? Everyone has a response to this. In fact, you may receive a whole grocery list of restaurant suggestions so you can even narrow it down. “What’s the best place to get Mexican that’s not Taco Bell?” can be a good way of narrowing it down.
  2. What new bands have you been listening to recently? The older you get, the harder it is to discover new music. Music can also tell you a lot about a person. Your choices don’t have to match up perfectly, but it’d be great if they did. Going to a concert is a great date idea.
  3. What’s your favorite color? Does it matter? Of course not. But, it’s a playful question that might get them to open up. Plus, it’s a question they might not have gotten in a long time unless they have kids. As a potential dating partner, this information is also useful to know, especially if you use it to your advantage. You can coordinate and wear a dress or shirt that happens to be that color when you eventually meet up in person.
  4. What’s your favorite holiday tradition? This question may make more sense if it’s asked in November or December, but it’ll still be quite informative. You’ll learn how they celebrate, and what makes their holidays special. You can also figure out what they celebrate. Maybe they observe both Christmas and Hanukkah, or maybe they abstain from holidays altogether.
  5. Have any funny stories from the people you met on here? It may seem a little strange to ask a stranger on a dating app about their experiences using the dating app, but it’s possible they have a funny story to tell that can kind of break the ice. You can also see what kind of person they are. If their story is more cruel than funny, you’ll know not to waste any more time.
  6. Are you new to online dating? Some people are, and that may be why their profile is so vague. It’s okay if that’s the case. You can talk about how you’d improve the site or talk about other sites you’ve possibly used before. If you’re not really sold on online dating sites but still have a profile, that’s something that might start up a good conversation.
  7. What are you looking for in a partner? The goal here is to not suddenly morph into their vision of the ideal mate. But, it’s to see if you happen to fit the bill. The one thing you know about this person right now is that they’re also on a dating site, so it shouldn’t be crass or strange to talk about dating.
  8. Do you believe in astrology? Some people get very into it, and for others, it’s just fun. There’s no wrong answer for this question, but it does present an opportunity to know their sign and check their horoscope for them for fun.
  9. Where’s the best place to get pizza around here? It’s not romantic, it’s not odd, but it’s still quite specific. If you’re dating online and happen to be new to the area, it’s possible you truly don’t know where the go-to spot is. This question will allow your date to open up about their own suggestions, and open up an invite opportunity in case you’d like to grab a slice with them someday.
  10. What was the last album you remember buying? It’s another music question, but a good one. This could be the last physical CD or record they bought in stores, or an entire album purchased from Apple Music. These days, buying full albums is slightly more of a rarity than it was a decade or so ago. If you get an answer back like “I don’t know” without much follow-up, maybe they’re not that into music. Or, maybe they’re kind of a dud. Not all matches will be winners, unfortunately.
  11. Tell me about your pet. Who doesn’t love talking about the dogs and cats in their lives? Pets are always a great conversation starter. “Do you have any pets?” is a great way to start, and then you can ask follow-up questions. Have they ever rescued a dog? What’s their dream pet? What was the funniest pet they’ve ever had?
  12. Where do you like to vacation? If asked in the summertime or during a holiday, this question makes a lot of sense. But even in the dead of winter, it can be nice to think about warmer locations and time off.  This topic might also make your potential date think about positive, nostalgic memories. And if the two of you hit it off, maybe you’ll learn more about their past.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.