12 Signs He’s The Decent Guy You Have Been Searching For

When you’ve been single for what feels like way too long, you start to wonder if there are any good guys left. If there are, you’re definitely not meeting them. But then one day, everything changes and you actually meet someone that seems to meet all your criteria and then some. Is he too good to be true or what? Here are 12 signs that you’ve hit the jackpot and he’s actually a decent guy:

  1. You can completely be yourself. You don’t have to worry if this guy gets you— he totally does, and he likes you for being exactly who you are. Gone are the days when you had to over-explain yourself on dates or wonder if you would ever meet someone who would truly understand you, because you’ve finally met someone who does.
  2. You see absolutely zero red flags. When you meet a new guy and there’s literally nothing weird going on, it feels pretty strange at first. You’re still paranoid and still wonder when things are going to go south. Once you can recognize that there are no red flags and this guy isn’t creepy at all, you’re going to be so relieved — and so excited.
  3. You don’t struggle to make plans. A few text messages are all it takes and you have a plan set in stone. You don’t have to agonize over whether or not he’s going to text you back. You don’t have to wonder if you’re hanging out too many times in a row or if he’s going to be cool with the restaurant that you chose. Making plans is as easy as hanging out with a good friend, and it’s pretty awesome.
  4. You feel a sense of momentum. There’s no going one step forward, two steps back with this guy. You feel some momentum and know that things with him are actually going somewhere. In the beginning, you might take it slow, but after that, you spend more and more time with this guy and your new relationship continues to develop and get stronger from there.
  5. You don’t have to guess he feels about you. You might not be at the stage where he says that he definitely likes you and you haven’t had the talk yet, but you still know how this guy feels about you. He’s said that he’s happy that he met you and that you two are spending time together, and he even references future plans. It’s definitely a change for the better.
  6. You never feel bad about yourself. With a decent guy, you never have to feel like you’re not good enough or that you don’t deserve him. You never lose your confidence. In fact, you gain confidence because makes you feel exactly as amazing as you are. He always heightens your self-esteem, whether he’s complimenting your work ethic or saying that you pick the best date night spots.
  7. You don’t stress about ghosting. This annoying AF side effect of dating will be a thing of the past when you finally meet a decent guy. You never worry about him ghosting you out of nowhere, because he’d never do that. He can recognize you for what you are — girlfriend potential — and he’s never letting go. In a situation in which his feelings changed, you know you could count on him to communicate with you directly.
  8. You trust him no matter what. When he has to reschedule a date, you don’t give him the third degree or wonder if something else is going on. You trust him 100 percent because you can just tell that he’s one of the good guys. He’s always been straight up with you and you know he has nothing to hide. This is definitely something that you could get used to.
  9. Your mind is always calm. No more overthinking. Say goodbye to going over conversations and text message threads over and over again. That’s all over when you’re dating a guy who’s for real. You might even worry that you have nothing to worry about because it’s going to feel pretty weird at first, but once you realize how great this is, you get over that.
  10. You see him as an actual human being. This guy isn’t just another Tinder date or reason why you hate dating. You consider him a well-rounded human being with flaws and opinions and likes and dislikes. It seems like such a small thing, but it actually means a lot.
  11. You consider the future with him by your side. When you picture the next few weeks and months, this guy is still in your life. You want to keep getting to know him, you’re dying to see where things go, and for once, your future isn’t only about everything that you want to accomplish and experience. He’s part of your future, and that’s pretty great.
  12. You actually get your hopes up. Instead of telling yourself to stop hoping because you’re only going to be disappointed, you let your emotional guard down and you allow yourself to wish for the best. You’ve gotten to the point where you would rather take the risk and offer him your heart. You don’t want to play it cool, and you don’t want to think about how badly things could go. This is a whole new thing for you, and you’re actually loving it. Because he’s such a decent guy, you feel this vulnerability is worth it. Chances are, it’s going to be.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.