12 Signs He’s Over You And No Longer Interested

You might still love him, but how can you tell he’s over you for good and it’s time to move on? Here are 12 signs to look out for so you don’t waste your time on him. It’s time to face the music!

  1. He doesn’t want to fight. When problems come up in your relationship, your partner doesn’t want to talk about it or fight about it. They just leave the room or leave your texts on “read.” Bottom line: it’s clear they don’t want to fight for your relationship anymore.
  2. He never asks you anything. You can tell someone has stopped being interested in you when they don’t ask you any questions. Even when they know you’re going through something stressful, they don’t even check in to see how you’re doing. They’re totally done with the relationship.
  3. He replies with one-word answers. “K” is what he sends you when you send him a long text. WTF? It’s enough to drive you mad, but it’s a sign he’s just not keen on talking to you. He’s reached the point where he can’t even use his fingers to type up a decent reply because he’s so exhausted.
  4. He’s ignoring your friends. You and your partner have mutual friends but now your partner’s totally ignoring them. Woah, what’s going on? It could be an early sign that they’re slowly cutting you out of their life. Chat to your friends and see how they behave around you. If they act dodgy, then maybe they know something you don’t.
  5. He never smiles at you. When you spend time with your partner, he always looks irritated with everything you say. Can’t remember the last time he actually looked happy to be around you? Yikes.
  6. He’s not jealous. You weren’t trying to make him jealous, but you can’t help but feel pissed off that he has no reaction when he hears that you hung out with one of your male buddies. It’s like he couldn’t care less!
  7. He’s got mentionitis. He might not be jealous, but you are. Lately, he’s started mentioning some other woman a lot. This could give you a clue that his interests lie elsewhere because she’s always on his mind. If he’s talking so much about another woman, he could be trying to tell you he’s not interested in you anymore. He’s just too much of a coward to say it like a real man.
  8. He never replies to you after a fight. It’s bad enough that he never wants to argue about issues – how else are you supposed to sort through things and grow? – but he doesn’t even want to get in touch with you to be sure that you’re both good. He always waits around for you to make contact first, which is dodgy.
  9. He’s not waiting for you. If he always waits for you to make contact, that’s a clear sign he’s actually not waiting! He’s doing his own thing and maybe just expecting that sooner or later you’ll reach out. Ugh. The truth is that you end up waiting around for him to show you some love and attention, but it’s just not happening.
  10. He’s suddenly too busy. He always used to have time to spend with you, but lately he’s always got an excuse for why he can’t hang out. What, did he suddenly change his entire life so that he’s got no room in his schedule? What a joke. He’s just not keen on seeing you.
  11. He never touches you. When you’re around each other, he avoids touching you as though you’ve got the plague. Even if he never used to like PDA, you can tell when someone’s interested by their body language and how you feel around them. If you feel uncomfortable, or insecure because he doesn’t want to be close to you, that’s horrible. He might also have excuses whenever you try to have sex. Run, this guy’s heading for the exit!
  12. He avoids flirting. You try to flirt with him via text, and he always shoots you down. He’ll change the subject or just not answer you. Why are you still wasting time on this guy? The last thing you need is for your boyfriend to become your friend – you’ve already got platonic friends, thanks.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.