12 Signs The Guy You’re Into Likes Someone Else

You’re crazy about him but something in your gut is telling you his focus is elsewhere. Yes, it hurts like hell when the guy you’re crushing on hard is into someone else, but it’s important to save yourself the pain and torture by noticing early signs that it’s happening. Honestly, you don’t need the drama.

  1. He can’t seem to stick to plans. You make plans (yet again) to meet up on the weekend and he seems keen about them, but then he drops you at the last minute… again. Or, he never even makes plans in the first place because he always has to “see what happens” in his week. What the hell?
  2. He’s always texting. Sadly, the recipient isn’t you. He’s fine with leaving you on “read” for days, but when you’re with him, he’s glued to his freaking phone, typing away nonstop. Who could he possibly be talking to?
  3. He gets that weird smile. Worse yet, he might be looking down at his phone with a weird little smile on his face during these texting events. Something or someone sure is amusing him but he’s not letting you in on the joke. You wouldn’t dare ask because you know you won’t get an answer.
  4. He’s not listening. OMG, is there anything more frustrating?! You’re trying to tell him something and he keeps asking, “Sorry, what did you say?” because he’s so freaking distracted. If this happens once, you can try to forget about it. If it’s always happening, then you have to wonder what or who is on his mind.
  5. He’s rushing through your quality time. Does it seem like he’s in fast-forward mode when you’re together? He rushes to get to the restaurant where you’re meeting for dinner, then rushes through ordering something to drink, and he can never stay for dinner. He’s always in a hurry to get away from you as soon as possible. Why does he bother?
  6. He’s always talking to one woman online. So you’ve scoured his social media profiles for any hints that he’s interested in someone and you’ve seen one particular woman keep coming up. She’s always commenting on his posts and he’s returning the favor – a lot. Their messages to each other are always filled with tons of emojis and cute flirty words. Ugh.
  7. He can’t stop talking about her. Does it seem like he’s always mentioning Melissa from the office or Jodie, his old school friend? Yup, the guy’s got mentionitis. Don’t take this lightly. It’s a dangerous disease that can totally kill off a new relationship.
  8. He’s not getting personal. Maybe he used to confide in you and call you first when something big happened to him. Now it seems like you’re getting the info like all his other followers and acquaintances – on social media. WTF? The truth is that he could very well be telling some other woman all his news.
  9. He’s showing you a darker side. If things felt like they were starting to head towards a relationship but now he’s acting moody, shady, or irritable around you, those are huge warning signs that it’s never gonna happen. He might be over whatever it was you had so he’s not showing you his best side. Yup, you guessed it – he’s reserving that for someone else.
  10. He’s closing himself in. As mentioned earlier, he might no longer be telling you about the latest news in his life. But he might also be shutting down around you, such as by not letting you in on his feelings or treating you like one of the guys. He’s putting you firmly into the friend zone, it seems.
  11. He’s different around other women. Now this one really stings. Usually, we’re told that when a guy treats us differently as compared to other women, it means that there’s a reason for it – a good one, like that he’s into us. But when a guy’s into someone else, the opposite could happen. He could treat you in an unappealing way, especially if she’s around by ignoring you or teasing you in a way that doesn’t really feel good.
  12. He shuts down your flirts. If you try to be a bit flirty with him the way you guys have always been with each other, he shuts you down. Maybe he changes the subject or becomes quiet. Ouch. This is a clear sign that he’s not seeing you in a romantic way anymore. Maybe he never really did. The best thing to do is move on and forget about him because his romantic intentions are directed elsewhere. His loss.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.