12 Signs It’s Time To Tell Him To Kiss Your Ass Goodbye

Sometimes a guy doesn’t deserve to be let down easy — some men just need to be kicked to the curb. Don’t put up with bad boy BS anymore. If he pulls any of these things, tell him to kiss your ass goodbye:

  1. He pressures or guilts you into sex. Whatever your stance is on sex, saying no, for whatever reason, is your prerogative. If your boyfriend is pressuring you to go past your comfort level, then he doesn’t respect you. The right guy will respect your wishes and wait until you are fully ready for that level of intimacy instead of thinking he’s entitled to it.
  2. He cheats on you. Why should you care about protecting his feelings? He obviously didn’t give a crap about you, so it’s time to say goodbye to his ungrateful ass. Get this sorry excuse of a man out of your life before his next spout of “weakness.”
  3. He doesn’t respect your beliefs. When it comes to religion (or lack thereof), you don’t have to agree, but he also doesn’t have to be rude. As a rule of thumb, if he doesn’t respect your spiritual beliefs, he doesn’t respect you. Stop wasting your time and wave bye-bye to that disrespectful jerk.
  4. He’s obsessed with calling the shots. Despite what he might think, men weren’t put on this earth to tell women what to do. If he’s keeping tabs on everywhere you go and everything you do, it’s time to ditch the control freak and reunite with your independence.
  5. He’s a compulsive liar. Relationships are built on trust and honesty, so stop falling for his BS. Whether it’s little white lies or big lies that legitimately hurt you, if you can’t trust him, then you shouldn’t be with him.
  6. He doesn’t push you to be your best. A man who doesn’t encourage the very best in you should never be given your best in return. Whether he’s sexist and antifeminist or simply doesn’t care about your dreams, please show this guy the door.
  7. He’s mentally, emotionally, or physically abusive. No woman deserves domestic abuse, and there’s no excuse for it. You should be with a man who makes you feel better about yourself, not worse. You should feel safe and happy in his arms, and if you don’t, it’s time to kiss the relationship goodbye.
  8. He refuses to commit. You don’t have time to wait on the heels of someone else. You have a life to live. If he doesn’t love you enough to commit to an exclusive relationship, then he isn’t worth your time. Let the fool go and find someone who can truly appreciate you.
  9. He’s a d-bag to your friends. Your friends have been there through thick and thin and they’ll be around a lot longer than any jerk that breaks your heart. If a guy doesn’t care about you enough to be nice to your friends, then he probably wasn’t all that nice to begin with.
  10. He’s a womanizer. A man who thinks he’s God’s gift to women doesn’t deserve you. Women are not prey and you weren’t sent to him to do his bidding. He needs to treat you like an equal partner or try his luck at finding a girl willing to compromise her self-respect for a man.
  11. He mooches off you. An unemployed bum on your couch isn’t attractive in the slightest. What’s even worse than his lazy ass is his requirement that you work your ass off to pay his bills. If he’s using you for money, cut him off and kick his bum out on the street.
  12. Being with him makes you unhappy. Are you giving him everything while he gives you nothing in return? If you’re simply no longer in love (or even like) with him, let him down easy — but if he doesn’t give a crap about your happiness send him packing ASAP.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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