12 Signs He Only Wants To Be Your Bed Partner, Not Your Life Partner

Your boyfriend’s eyes always seem to light up when he sees you, but is that because he wants to get it on or because he’s head over heels in love with you? Here are all the signs that he’s only in it to satisfy his urges.

  1. He talks about making love constantly. Is every second word that comes out of his mouth some sort of innuendo? That’s because this guy’s brain is about 90% love-making and 10% everything else. He brings it up a lot and seems to relate a lot of conversation back to it. Intimacy is his hobby and you’re making it really easy for him to do what he loves. If he can’t seem to shut up about what he wants to do to you later, he might be putting love-making before love when it comes to your relationship.
  2. Everything you do seems to end with sleeping together. Whether you’re out for dinner or taking the train to Grandma’s house, he’s going to find a way to squeeze it in. It’s no coincidence that every date ends with a roll in the hay. Even if it seems like a surprise, it’s not. He’s constantly strategizing to make it happen because that’s all he cares about. Duh!
  3. He prefers to stay in. He’d rather stay in than go out for the sole guarantee that hot times will be happening later. You might think that he’s a homebody, but it’s just because he’s planning around hooking up.
  4. He comments a lot on your body. At first it was flattering, but now you’re wondering if he even cares about your personality. If the only compliment he ever seems to give you involves a body part, he could be using you for your body and not really into the whole “love” part.
  5. He normally doesn’t get a lot of action. As a guy who goes many months without a proper lay, you’re a huge novelty to him. He’s so excited that he now has intimacy whenever he wants and he’ll do anything to keep it that way, even if it means pretending to be in a relationship for a while. I know it’s awful to hear, but think about how good he’s got it right now. There’s no way he’s gonna go back to satisfying himself three times a day when he’s got a real girl willing to sleep with him whenever he wants.
  6. He always has his hands all over you. He can’t seem to control himself when he’s with you. He’ll even grab your backside in public because he’s THAT addicted to your body. He rarely ever touches you in a loving way—it’s always got an undertone and you wonder why he doesn’t do things like hold your hand or run his fingers through your hair. He wants to sleep with you, not care for you like a boyfriend should.
  7. You always feel a bit of pressure from him. When you’re together, you always feel a tiny bit of pressure to do the deed and the thought of saying no to him is just out of the question. The times you do say no, he acts a little annoyed and hurt. I guess it reminds him of all the times he tried to get action from other girls before he met you.
  8. It’s your main activity. If you can’t really picture yourselves doing anything else besides sleeping together and talking, maybe that’s all he sees the relationship as. If doing other activities like dancing, going to the movies, or just hanging out on the couch and eating pizza are out of the question, then intimacy might be all he wants from you.
  9. He’s always the one to initiate. This one’s pretty obvious, but if he’s always the one to give you the nudge, then you know exactly what’s on his mind most of the time. You don’t even get the chance to initiate because he does it literally every chance he gets and it’s starting to get annoying.
  10. The relationship started off as friends with benefits. If you guys didn’t have proper dates before becoming an item, there’s a very good chance that he still kinda sees you as just the girl he’s sleeping with and is agreeing to be exclusive to keep the intimacy flowing.
  11. You were the one to say “I love you” first. There’s a very good chance that if you were the one to say “I love you” first, he would have never said it. You caught him off guard when you spewed the line but to your surprise, he said it back. What he really meant to say was that he loves sleeping with you.
  12. Your most intimate moments are always in bed. When you’re just talking in regular life, it feels a bit stifled. However, when you get under the covers, you both seem to come to life. It’s because THAT’S the reason why he’s with you so, of course he’s going to be happiest when he’s doing it. Don’t expect much else from him.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

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