12 Things A Good Man Will Do In A Healthy Relationship

Whether you’re new to the dating game or you’ve just had one too many bad dating experiences, you may not know what a healthy relationship looks like. What is the dynamic like and what are some of the things your partner should be bringing to the table? If you’re confused about what to look for, here are some good things any good man will do in a healthy relationship.

  1. He’ll recognize the importance of teamwork. A relationship consists of two people and therefore, both people should be putting in effort to make it work. A good man will understand the importance of this concept. He’ll do his part in the relationship. That means he will work towards bettering himself, plan some date nights and do whatever work needs to be done in the relationship. If you live together, that means he’ll help with house chores and split the bills. A good man recognizes that a relationship is a two-way street.
  2. He’ll be honest. Everyone wants an honest partner and a good man will always tell the truth even when lying is easier. He’ll be open about himself and his feelings. He won’t hide things from you to make himself appear a certain way. He also won’t lie to get brownie points or to protect himself, but will take accountability for his actions.
  3. He’ll be a good communicator. Good communication is key to a healthy relationship. A good man will communicate assertively, not aggressively or in a passive-aggressive manner. He’ll be aware of his body language and will be open with you about what he’s feeling and what his wants or needs are. If something is bothering him, he won’t just bottle it up. With this type of communication, you’re never left guessing.
  4. He’ll treat you with respect. This may seem obvious, but a good man will always treat you with respect even when he disagrees with you or doesn’t understand your thought process. That means he will listen when you’re speaking and won’t be rude and cut you off or speak over you. It means he’ll show empathy and not judge you for your choices. He won’t cross the boundaries you set in places, whether they be physical, emotional, or spiritual.
  5. He’ll make you feel safe. A good man will always feel at home with him and in the relationship. You won’t ever be afraid to be yourself around him. You’ll feel comfortable and won’t worry that you’ll be judged or rejected. He’ll be the one you turn to when you need to talk to someone. You won’t feel scared that he’ll hurt you. With him, you’ll always know that everything is going to be okay.
  6. He’ll support even your wildest dreams. A good man will support and encourage you in all areas of your life. If you’re having a tough time, he’ll be there to lend an ear and to give advice, if you want it. Otherwise, he’ll support you in whatever way he can. He also won’t discourage you from following your dreams, but will be your biggest supporter. You’ll feel like you can do anything, thanks to his encouragement and partnership.
  1. He’ll inspire you. When you’re around a good man, you’ll want to be a better person. He’ll inspire you to grow emotionally, intellectually and in all other aspects of your life. And he won’t even have to say anything to you directly; he’ll inspire you just by being himself. He’s ambitious and always looking to better himself as a person. That sort of energy simply radiates to those around him.
  2. He’ll never be abusive. A good man will never be abusive towards you or anyone else in his life. That means that he won’t be physically, verbally or emotionally abusive. He’ll know how to communicate with you even when he’s angry or upset. He’ll be gentle and assertive when he needs to be. He will make you feel safe.
  3. He’ll understand that actions speak louder than words. Actions speak louder than words, especially in a relationship. Although words can be sweet, you can tell more about a person by their actions. It’s not cool if a man (or anyone) makes promises he doesn’t keep. A good man will stay true to his word. His actions will show that he is a good person.
  4. He’ll remember the little things and act on them. A good man will pay attention to you. And he’ll remember the little things, such as your likes and dislikes. He’ll even go the extra mile to ensure that you have the things you like. That means he’ll plan dates to that place you mentioned a while back or let you watch your favorite movie on a Friday night. You’ll often think to yourself that he’s very thoughtful.
  5. He’ll give you your space. In a healthy relationship, a good man knows that you can’t and shouldn’t be attached at the hip 24/7. In order to be stronger as a couple, you have to be fulfilled as individuals. This means maintaining your own lives outside of the relationship. He doesn’t have drama when you want to go out with your friends, just like you’re cool when he wants to have the night to himself to play video games. He recognizes that space and time to yourself are important ingredients in any good relationship.
  6. He’ll always be working to better himself. A good man never rests on his laurels in his relationship or in life in general. He knows there’s always work to be done and improvements to be made, so he’s always working to reach that next level within himself. He knows you’re doing the same, so he wants to be sure he can meet you on your level.
Selena Singh-Russell is a freelance writer and former junior editor. She enjoys writing on a variety of topics, including health, travel and entertainment. She has been published on TheRichest, TheThings, Monsters & Critics, and in Chicken Soup for the Soul. When she isn't writing, you can catch her exploring new cities or baking.