12 Things To Do Instead Of Waiting For His Text

We’ve all been there; keeping your phone a little closer at all times, jumping at any sound or vibration, and it usually indicates one thing: anticipating a text from your latest crush. Waiting around for a guy to make contact is never fun, so how about not being that girl and doing these things instead?

  1. Hustle. What are you doing with your life? Even the most ambitious ladies can find themselves derailed by a guy if they manage to get under their skin. But make sure your latest fling isn’t distracting you from what’s important. Catch up on some work or if you don’t like where you’re at in life, spend some time focusing on your career and where you want to be.
  2. Get off your butt. When I’m annoying the crap out of myself, anxiously waiting by the phone, I try to get outside and hit the pavement. This is usually accompanied but cute workout clothes and Demi Lovato blasting through my headphones; the more basic, the better. There’s nothing like a good strutty power walk to remind yourself you’re a strong, independent woman who doesn’t need an iPhone ping to validate her worth.
  3. Give yourself the spa treatment. Take a really long bath; do your nails; put in a hair treatment; coat yourself in a layer of fake tan; wax—everywhere. Using your spare time for a little pampering will not only help you to chill the hell out, but you’ll emerge on the other side looking mint. If and when he does finally text you with that date invite, you will be primped and prepped.
  4. Go out with your friends. Is there anything quite as therapeutic as a good vent over a drink with your girlfriends? Stash your phone in your handbag and spend the night whipping out your best Britney moves on the dance floor like it’s 2006. Somewhere between “I’m a Slave For You” and “Circus,” you’ll remember that you’re a goddamn queen and shouldn’t be waiting around for a text off anyone. Just remember if you have one too many cocktails to leave your cell with a trusted friend who won’t let you drunk dial.
  5. Call someone who loves you. When you’re feeling all neglected and unwanted, it helps to chat to someone who actually cares about you. After a good chin wag and hearing about someone else’s problems for a change, you’ll feel loads better—or at least realize that if feeling impatient about a dude is your biggest problem, you’re doing pretty well, really.
  6. Go to the movies. I used to think going to the movies solo was something that only sad people did. But now that I’ve tried it I’ve discovered they’re onto something. You can see whatever you want, whenever you want, and you don’t have to share your popcorn. It’s also bad form to be on your phone once the lights go out, so it’s two hours of phone-less bliss.
  7. Treat yourself to a little retail therapy. Gone a whole day without checking your phone? Held strong and haven’t texted him first? You deserve a new pair of shoes. Go cut a few laps around the shopping mall and daydream about all the things you’ll buy when you’re not a struggling 20-something. And if you have the cash, buy yourself a little something, just for being your awesome self.
  8. See who else is out there. There’s nothing like a good swipe sesh whenever you’re feeling a little restless. Yeah sure, sometimes this backfires when you realize just how slim the pickings can be, but who knows. You may just come across a babe who will actually take the time out of their day to have a conversation with you. Receiving a bit of attention doesn’t have to be like getting blood out of a stone; always remember you have options.
  9. Indulge your hobbies. And obsessing isn’t one of them, sorry. But seriously, there are so many fun, productive, creative things you could be doing instead of brooding over why he hasn’t contacted you yet. Do something you’re truly interested in, the more involved, the better. There are people on Etsy making hundreds of dollars off glittery penis-shaped decorations—what the hell are you doing with your spare time??
  10. Spring clean. Let’s be honest, this probably needs doing. You have no business sulking around your sad lifeless phone when your apartment looks like a bomb site. Get down and dirty with some bleach and your shower tiles. Vacuum your carpet before it collects so much long hair you could knit a sweater. And throw out anything in your wardrobe that you’d be embarrassed to be wearing if you got pulled over by the crew from Cops.
  11. Write it all down. If you can’t stop thinking about him and you’ve exhausted all of your venting rights with your friends, put pen to paper. Get all your neurosis out of your head and into a notebook and you’ll feel ten times saner. And who knows, maybe you’ll Carrie Bradshaw your way out of your boy-funk and into an exciting new passion.
  12. Just turn your phone off. Sometimes you just need to take yourself off the grid for a while. This might seem extreme for someone who is attached to their phone like a vital organ. But actually giving yourself a break from communication and letting yourself be present could be just the break you needed.
Tabitha is a freelance writer and editor who is currently trying and failing to achieve a tan in Queensland, Australia. When she's not traveling the world in search of the country with the best food (and hottest dudes), she is living the perfect hermit life and fostering her unhealthy addiction of "The Bold and the Beautiful."