12 Things You Need To Let Go Of So You Can Finally Move On With Your Life

In life, it’s hard to keep a positive outlook all the time. Sometimes, we get knocked down – and we don’t always want to get right back up. We get discouraged and hung up over certain things, but we shouldn’t allow that to get in the way of our success. We have to be aware that things aren’t always going to work out as planned, and we just have to roll with the punches. These are 12 things that you need to let go of so that you can finally move on with your life and be the badass woman you truly are.

  1. The one that got away. Finding love and then losing it is one of the most difficult losses to cope with. We may meet someone who we really thought was The One, but for some reason, it just didn’t work. You need to let go of him, because if he was truly meant to be in your life, he would have stayed. Maybe he’ll come back in the future, but you can’t put your life on pause for him in the meantime.
  2. Ex-boyfriends. Our exes were once a huge part of our lives, but not anymore. You broke up for a reason, and unless you’re planning on re-kindling a fire and working hard to make it last forever, then leave it alone. Don’t try to be friends with your ex and don’t keep him around just because you’re lonely. It’s over.
  3. Old friendships. We all have friendships that we wish didn’t end. From time to time, we wonder how those friends are doing and wish them well, but people grow apart. We get older and not everyone sticks around. Friendship is a two-way street. Don’t make an effort for a friend that won’t make an effort for you.
  4. Fear of rejection. Not everyone is going to like you, and not everyone is going to accept you. That’s okay. You don’t need every person you ever meet to be your number one fan. Surround yourself with people who love you just the way you are and forget about the rest.
  5. Fear of failure. If you let your fear of failure dictate your actions, then you’ll never get anything done. Failure is inevitable, and we have to learn from it. After all, experience is the best teacher.
  6. Past failures. Just because we failed in the past shouldn’t stop us from continuing to pursue our passions. As the saying goes, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.”
  7. Fear of getting hurt. You never know if you never try. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don’t, and you can’t possibly know which way things will go before you’ve even gotten started. It’s impossible to avoid getting hurt or upset about something that’s important to us, but don’t get carried so away with your emotions that you never put yourself out there to begin with.
  8. Grudges against the people who’ve wronged you. Staying angry at someone or something is a complete waste of time. Accept the things that you can’t change and move on. Holding onto grudges does nothing for you except put you in a bad mood all the time and turn you into an angry, vengeful person. Let it go.
  9. Waiting on permission from others. You don’t need to wait for other people to tell you that it’s okay to chase your dreams. Be confident in yourself and your abilities. Stop waiting on approval from for your friends and family.
  10. Other people’s negative opinions. Never let someone else’s negativity bring you down. Think happy thoughts and work hard towards your goals. Amazing things happen when you stop caring about what other people think.
  11. The idea that you aren’t good enough. Don’t underestimate yourself and never get in the mindset of thinking that you aren’t good enough. Ghandi once said, “Strength does not come from physical capacity, it comes from an indomitable will.” If you want something, go after it. You are good enough.
  12. Trying to control everything around you. It’s okay to have a plan and be prepared, but keep in mind that anything can happen. A majority of the time, things work out best when you aren’t trying to control the situation.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns