12 Thoughts Guarded Girls Have After Meeting A Great Guy

Guarded girls make amazing girlfriends if you can manage to get past our walls. We’ve been hurt one too many times in the past so we don’t let guys in easily, but if they prove they’re worth it, we’ll give them our hearts. Of course, getting to that point is a process, and we’re likely to have these thoughts along the way:

  1. “Who’s he? He’s cute…” We’re incredibly attracted to him. The first thought us guarded girls have when a worthwhile guy finally shows up is how unbelievably attracted we are to him. Most of the time any hot guy sets off red flags but not this one. He’s different somehow and we’re sure he might just be worth a conversation.
  2. “He’s probably a player.” We always choose to like the wrong men so when we eventually get feelings for a new guy we make that assumption that he’s just like the others almost immediately. We’re so turned off by love and relationships that it’s almost a reflex to assume the worst about a guy we’re interested in.
  3. “Okay, he actually seems nice.” When we decide to give this guy the time of day only to find out that he does charity work, loves his mother and has dealt with his own share of heartbreak, our initial thoughts of him being just another a-hole start to dissipate.
  4. “Do I actually like this guy?” When we finally accept the fact that we’re able to have feelings for a guy again, we’ll argue our own feelings to death. Getting attached to someone isn’t something we’re used to, or even well equipped to handle unless it’s real, so when there’s something about a guy we just can’t shake, we have to be certain of our feelings by debating with ourselves.
  5. “Okay, we can be friends but that’s it.” Instead of jumping into some sort of relationship with the guys we like, we guarded girls will decide that a friendship will do far less harm than actually dating him would.  It’s easier to convince ourselves that friends is better than nothing because even though we’re scared, we want him in our life.
  6. “Fine, I’ll go on one date with him.” After denying our feelings for as long as we possibly can, we finally get around to admitting that they’re there at all. That’s when we allow ourselves to go on at least one date just to see how it goes because we know deep down that there’s a decent chance it, and he’ll be worth it.
  7. “That was way too much fun.” When the feelings can’t be ignored and the date turns out to be the best date we’ve ever been on, guarded girls will panic. We can be blissfully happy all on our own, but the way we feel about that new guy is incomparable and it’s got us wondering if we’re getting in too deep.
  8. “I’d better not get involved.” We guarded girls tend to have a full life, with a solid career and great friendships so when we finally allow ourselves to date someone we’re really into, we have reservations. There’s no way in hell we’re letting ourselves get hurt again so instead of giving someone the chance to do so, we avoid relationships altogether.
  9. “I like him too much to not date him.” When our new romantic interest has proven he’s a decent guy and we’re convinced that dating him wouldn’t end the same as all the other relationships we’ve had, we’ll finally allow ourselves to give into our emotions. We do this by treading lightly into relationship territory because although we’re guarded, we won’t allow ourselves to miss out on something great.
  10. “I’d better take it slow.” Us guarded girls will always enter relationships slowly and surely because we know not to get too invested too quickly. We want to get to know this unicorn of a man as well as we possibly can before falling in love because we will always protect our hearts from yet another heartbreak.
  11. “I’m falling in love with him.” When we do start falling in love, it hits us like a ton of bricks. We don’t fall in love often, so when we finally do it’s strong, it’s real and we couldn’t imagine life without our new love.
  12. “I’ll let him break down my walls.” After giving into love again, we guarded girls will actually let the guy we truly care about break down our walls. We want him to get to know the real us without regret because we know that we took every precaution possible to avoid allowing just another player into our hearts.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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