12 Ways To Get To The Make-Up Sex Faster After A Huge Fight

Have you ever had a fight just to have make-up sex? If not, try it sometime. It’s the adult version of getting a treat for doing something right, and it’s a hell of a lot better than a sticker or piece of candy. The problem is you have to end the fight before you start making up. Here’s how to get there ASAP:

  1. Show off your assets. No apologies or even words are needed for this one. Show your partner exactly what he’s missing out on. Drop a towel “by accident” or bend over in something a little too short. Before you know it, he’ll gladly apologize for the chance to touch you.
  2. Give in and talk. You’re supposed to be an adult, not a 2-year-old, so stop with the tantrum and talk to each other like adults already. You might dread the confrontation, but that’s just part of life. You could drag out the fight or talk it out and start making up.
  3. Leave sexy notes. Leave sexy little notes telling your partner what you wished you were doing right now instead of fighting or pouting at each other. It’s a nice way of reminding him that he’s still important. It’s usually enough to help end most fights and enjoy being up close and personal again.
  4. Just say you’re sorry. Is the fight over something silly? Did you actually do something wrong? Let go of your pride for 10 seconds and remember what’s waiting for you if you apologize. Is anger really better than an orgasm? No. Go ahead, apologize (if it’s actually your fault), and have sex.
  5. Convince him that sex leads to apologies. You don’t always have to have an apology for there to be make-up sex. The post-sex high sometimes helps people let their guard down and apologize. He’ll realize the fight isn’t worth losing the one he loves.
  6. Agree to disagree. You’re not going to agree on everything, no matter how much you fight about it or compromise. You could be a die-hard Republican, but if your partner’s a Democrat, there’s not a damn thing you can do about it. Dating someone with different political views can destroy a relationship if you let it. If it’s not a dealbreaker, quit fighting about it and just agree to disagree. With incredible sex on the line, it’s time to accept that you both have different opinions.
  7. Do something nice. You don’t have to say “I’m sorry” to apologize. Actually, sometimes doing something nice for your partner makes them say it to you. Either way, it releases some tension and helps the two of you start talking. This leads to resolution and a much-needed release later that night.
  8. Offer up a compromise. Compromise is a must and if there’s any wiggle room, be the bigger person and offer up a compromise. Hopefully, he’ll meet you halfway and the fight’s suddenly over. Everyone wins and it doesn’t feel like anyone was wrong at all.
  9. Don’t speak outside of flirting. The silent treatment isn’t anything new, but torture your partner a little by only flirting. Unless you have a sexy retort, don’t speak. You’ll build so much sexual tension, your partner will be glad to sort out the argument immediately so he can act on all your innuendos.
  10. Figure out what the hell is really going on. Step away from your partner for a half hour or so and think about what the fight’s really about. Are you actually mad about him working late or not watching what you like? Odds are, there’s a deeper issue and until that’s resolved, no amount of make-up sex is going to fix things. Find out what the problem is and talk it out. Then you’ll get mind-blowing make-up sex as a reward.
  11. Use make-up sex to talk more. Sex calms and relaxes you. Even if the fight’s not quite over, go ahead and skip to the sex. Use cuddle time to talk about how you feel. You’ll be able to talk easier without it turning into a yelling match. And when you’re done, you get to make up all over again.
  12.  Stop holding a damn grudge. Holding grudges doesn’t help anyone. You’re not punishing your partner, you’re only hurting yourself. If you want a fight to be over and stop the same issue from coming back up, let go of the grudge, talk things out, work out a solution, and the get amazing sex you deserve.
Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.