12 Ways A Real Man Will Prove He’s Not Afraid Of Commitment

12 Ways A Real Man Will Prove He’s Not Afraid Of Commitment ©iStock/Anchiy

Being in a committed relationship isn’t always easy, but it’s still something a lot of us want. We get it— the freedom of being single can be pretty appealing too, and it’s not like we’re dying to rush into a commitment, either. But there always comes that point where you’ve been dating a guy for a while and you want your relationship to progress, and it’s a hell of a lot easier if he’s not trying to fight it at every turn. Commitment isn’t for everyone, but if it’s something you want, you need a guy who can prove he’s not afraid to take the plunge with you. How can you tell if he is?

  1. He actually makes plans for the future. Not only will he schedule time with you in advance to make sure you don’t already have plans, but he’ll talk about things that aren’t happening for months. When he talks about his future, he automatically assumes you’ll be around for it, and he has no problem saying it out loud.
  2. He tries to include you in his day-to-day life. It’s not unusual for him to text you about what he ate for lunch or something funny a co-worker said in a meeting. He always asks how your day went and isn’t concerned about seeming too eager to talk to you anymore— he’s all in, no point in hiding it.
  3. He wants you to have relationships with his friends and family. He assumes you’ll be accompanying him to most family-related functions, and he always invites you to his friend’s parties. He wants you to feel comfortable around them and consider them your friends too.
  4. He wants to have relationships with your friends and family. He makes an effort to do nice things for your friends, like buy your recently dumped BFF a drink to raise her spirits. And he does more than force small talk with your family— he actually wants to get to know them.
  5. He’s interested in your opinion on the big things. If he’s not sure what to do about a difficult work problem, or he’s having issues with a a friend, he never hesitates to talk to you about it. Not only is he open to your advice, he actually takes it sometimes.
  6. He’s fine with making compromises. All relationships require compromise. You can’t always both get your way every time, but if you’re both willing to sacrifice a little here and there for the greater good, you’ll be just fine.
  7. Good communication is important to him. Granted, communication isn’t a strength for a lot of guys. They don’t like talking about their feelings too much, but as long as he’s willing to open up when it really matters, getting through the tough times will be a lot easier.
  8. He keeps his promises. Not just with you, but with everything. A guy who is capable of sticking to his word will be a lot less likely to say things he doesn’t really mean, or rush into things he isn’t ready for. Generally, you can be confident that what he says is what he means.
  9. He isn’t easily influenced by what everyone else is doing. Some guys just default to being single, or settling down, because it’s what all their friends are doing at the time. But he’s capable of making his own decisions even if it means deviating from the crowd.
  10. He doesn’t play games. You’re rarely wondering what he’s thinking because he’s a pretty straight shooter when it comes to where you stand with him. He wouldn’t bother stringing a girl a long, because he has no interest in wasting time. Yours, or his own.
  11. He knows what he wants. Whether it’s dinner, a new job, or a new girlfriend, he knows exactly what he’s looking for. He’s past the phase of trying everything once, and once he’s decided it’s you he wants to commit to, he won’t be wishy-washy about it.
  12. He knows he’s lucky to have you. He knows a catch when he sees it, and he’s definitely not going to take you for granted. He knows if he’s not willing to commit, he could lose you, and that’s the last thing he wants.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.