The 13 Qualities A Guy Worth Dating Will Love Most About You

Don’t you hate investing time into a guy who turns out to be a huge jerk? Same. Well, you don’t have to waste valuable time and energy over several months to figure out if he’s “The One.” If he likes these 13 qualities about you, he’s a real one who’s looking for a real girl—how refreshing!

  1. Your intelligence You went to college and actually paid attention in your classes, and now you’re hustling to make your dreams come true. The wrong guy would be insecure by your motivation, but not him. He loves that you’re intelligent and determined to succeed.
  2. Your high standards It’s clear you take dating very seriously, which is why you’ve only had a couple of boyfriends. Some people might say you’re too picky, but he likes that you have standards. You don’t date just for the sake of dating, and that makes him feel special. He knows you’re with him because you want to be.
  3. Your little quirks and inherent personality traits Are you introverted or extroverted? A real guy will like whatever personality type you have. What matters is you’re able to show him your character. He wants to know who you are and how you respond to certain situations. If he’s “The One,” he won’t care if you hate crowds. He just loves knowing every little thing about you.
  4. Your sense of humor He likes that you’re witty and can take a joke. No one wants to be with someone who’s boring and dull. Your sense of humor is quirky and a little weird, but it makes you who you are. It’s also what makes him so attracted to you.
  5. Your cooking skills The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. He’s not sexist for being attracted to your cooking skills. You want a guy who can change a lightbulb, right? Cooking is another self-sufficient task. Knowing how to prepare delicious food means you’re creative and able to take care of yourself. It’s a good quality to want in a partner.
  6. Your hobbies He has his own hobbies and so do you. The fact that you have your own life is very attractive to him. Don’t get me wrong, he wants the relationship to be important to you. But he likes that you make time for your friends and your own interests.
  7. Your willingness to show affection We’re all emotional beings who need attention. But not everyone is comfortable showing affection. He likes that you hold his hand in public and playfully brush his hair from his forehead. He wants to feel needed and loved—most people do—and you make sure he does.
  8. Your sexual tastes  A real one doesn’t care what you like in bed. He cares that you’re both willing to discuss your sexual interests. He likes that you’re vocal about what you like, hate, and are open to trying. He doesn’t judge you and you don’t judge him (no matter how kinky your interests are).
  9. Your maturity Ignore the media—mature adults don’t want someone who constantly makes reckless decisions. Being spontaneous is attractive, but so is being financially stable and making decisions that’ll improve your future. You know the value of a dollar and what situations should be avoided. You have your act together and not afraid to grow up.
  10. Your honesty He’s not looking for someone to play games with, he’s looking for someone he can build a life with. The fact that you’re true to your word makes him feel secure in the relationship, which means he’s likely to be just as honest with you.
  11. Your happy lifestyle We’ve all dated a guy who tore us down and made us feel insecure. If this dude cares about you, he’ll love how happy you are. He’ll probably brag to his friends about your positive energy and excitement for life. That doesn’t mean you’re always content. You just know how to work through your bad days and smile, even when things look hopeless. That’s a rare quality and it’s probably his favorite.
  12. Your class You’re the kind of girl he can take home to his parents without worrying what they might think. You’re polite, funny, and kind. You’re not going to drop an F-bomb while hanging out with his family or get drunk at their dinner party. You were raised right. Some would say you’re the kind of young lady mothers want their sons to marry.
  13. How you take care of yourself We all want to date someone who’s physically attractive. And while he enjoys looking at you (because, duh, you’re cute), he’s more attracted to how you take care of yourself. For example, he likes that you make time to exercise and that you dress well. Self-care is important and he appreciates that you respect yourself enough to make it a top priority.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.