13 Reasons Why The Beta Guy Is So Much Better

Alpha guys are always painted as the most desirable on the planet. They’re strong, self-assured, and are happy to take charge. That’s not to say that alphas aren’t great partners, but here are 13 reasons that beta guys can be much more enjoyable to date.

  1. They’re not power-hungry. The alpha guy is ambitious, but sometimes he can be a little too eager to be powerful and win at everything. You’re left wondering if he’s led by his ego, which he probably is.
  2. They don’t have to cause a scene. What’s worse than witnessing a public brawl when you’re out at dinner? When your alpha partner’s the one causing the drama. Ugh.
  3. They don’t always have to take charge. The alpha man will turn up and take charge, and that can be sexy at first. However, when the relationship becomes more serious you might wish for a guy who actually stops and lets you be in control every now and then.
  4. They don’t think it’s a done deal. Since the alpha guys have spent their entire lives being worshipped for their good looks and charm, this can go to their heads. The beta guys know that they can’t rely on these superficial traits. That means:
  5. They make more effort. The beta guy won’t depend on his good looks but his intelligence and awesome sense of humor instead. Without relying on charm, he can work on being a better communicator. It’s refreshing.
  6. They don’t stress as much. The alpha guy is on top and he’ll fight tooth and nail to stay there, which can be pretty stressful. Dealing with a guy like this can start to bring you down, which is why the beta guy rocks –¬† he’s not as hectic about every little thing. Sigh, it’s good to be drama-free.
  7. They’re more centered. If the alpha guy comes across as confident, chances are underneath that exterior he might be insecure. Again, it’s because these guys are all about their egos. The beta guy, on the other hand, can just be himself and he’s more in tune with what he’s about without being so obsessed with being number one.
  8. They’re not looking for a trophy girlfriend. That’s not to say that all alpha males are looking for trophies, but they sometimes focus on appearances. They’re led by status. The beta guy, on the other hand, will want to make a real connection with the woman that he dates.
  9. They don’t promise you the world. The alpha male will enter your life and promise you everything, including his heart. Then he’ll ghost you after a fantastic date because he’s just after the chase and he’s being led by his ego. The beta male is more in tune with his real feelings and what he wants, and he doesn’t have to try so hard to impress you. Because of this, he comes across as more genuine from the start.
  10. They can show weakness. While the alpha guy is all about ensuring he appears flawless and strong, the beta man isn’t afraid to let you in and show you his vulnerable side. When he seems upset, you won’t have to be left confused as to what’s going on with him because he’ll open up to you.
  11. They can handle your emotions. It makes sense that some alpha guys would do poorly to handle your emotions if they can’t even deal with theirs. So, when you’re having a bad day and can’t stop the tears from falling, the alpha guy might make you feel even more frustrated because he doesn’t comfort you. He might mansplain how to deal with your issue. Ugh. The beta guy, on the other hand, has higher emotional intelligence and more empathy.
  12. They don’t always want to be right. Is there anything more frustrating than dating someone who always thinks they’re right? Ugh. The beta male doesn’t always feel the need to try to win every argument or expect you to fall in step with him.
  13. They don’t compete with you. A beta male won’t try to be the best in the relationship. As mentioned earlier, he’ll be cool with you taking control every now and then, but he’ll also want to watch you succeed without striving to be better than you. That means, he’ll be there to support you in your success as well as your failures.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.