We’ve all been around that one person who just seems to rub people the wrong way—and most of us are guilty of a few unlikable habits ourselves from time to time. If you’re wondering what behaviors might make people give you the side-eye, here are 13 social habits that can instantly make you a little less likable. Consider it a guide on what to avoid in your next conversation.
1. Interrupting People Constantly
Nobody likes feeling like they’re not being heard, and constantly interrupting others can make you come across as dismissive or self-centered. When you cut someone off mid-sentence, it essentially just tells them that whatever you have to say is more important. Taking a beat to let others finish their thoughts shows respect and makes people feel valued and in turn, it makes you much more likable.
2. Talking Only About Yourself
It’s natural to share a little about yourself, but if every conversation seems to come back to you, don’t be surprised when people start tuning out. Constantly bringing the conversation back to your experiences or achievements is basically telling the other person they’re just an audience to you. Engaging with others’ stories and asking thoughtful questions creates a balanced conversation and shows genuine interest in others.
3. One-Upping in Every Conversation
Have you ever shared a story, only to have someone respond with, “Oh, that’s nothing…” and proceed to top it with their own tale? You might think this “one-up” habit is how you bond, but really it’s just a fast way to make people feel like their experiences don’t matter. It’s fine to relate, but if every response turns into a competition, it’s going to get old—quickly. Letting others have their moment can go a long way.
4. Being the Perpetual Critic
Giving genuine feedback can be helpful, but constantly nitpicking or criticizing can make you seem negative and judgmental. If every restaurant, show, or new idea is met with criticism, people might start to see you as a downer. Sometimes, the most likable thing you can do is simply enjoy what’s in front of you—or at least pretend to. Life’s short and there’s no need to overanalyze every detail.
5. Checking Your Phone Mid-Conversation
Few things say “I don’t care” quite like scrolling through your phone when someone’s talking to you. Constantly checking messages or notifications while someone’s speaking to you sends a clear message that they don’t have your full attention. Putting your phone down, even just for a few minutes, shows respect and lets the person know they’re worth your time.
6. Oversharing Personal Details Too Soon
Building connections is important, but diving into deeply personal topics right away can be a little overwhelming for other people. Sharing a few personal stories is fine, but if you start oversharing too quickly, people will most likely feel a little uncomfortable or even put off. Letting relationships develop naturally allows trust to build and makes those deeper conversations feel genuine instead of forced.
7. Being Chronically Late
Being “fashionably late” might work occasionally, but showing up late consistently tells people that their time isn’t valuable to you. If you’re always the last one to arrive, people will start interpreting it as a sign of disrespect. Making an effort to be punctual (or at least close) can show others that you value their time as much as your own.
8. Talking Down to People
People can sense when they’re being talked down to, and it’s rarely appreciated. Using a condescending tone or treating other people like they’re less knowledgeable can come across as arrogant or dismissive. Even if you know a lot about a topic at hand, make sure you keep the tone friendly and inclusive. People are drawn to humility and respect, not to someone who makes them feel inferior.
9. Gossiping About Others
While a little venting now and then is natural, constantly gossiping or speaking negatively about other people makes you look like a bad person. If they hear you talking about others behind their backs, they may also start to wonder if you’d do the same to them. Keeping conversations positive and steering clear of unnecessary gossip builds trust and makes people more likely to enjoy your company.
10. Not Picking Up on Social Cues
If someone looks bored or keeps checking the time, it might be a sign to wrap things up. Not picking up on these subtle cues can make people feel trapped like they can’t exit the conversation without being rude. Being aware of body language and social hints shows that you’re attentive and considerate, making people feel more at ease around you.
11. Humble-Bragging
Everyone appreciates modesty, but the “humble brag” doesn’t fool anyone. Phrases like, “I’m just so exhausted from all the charity work I’m doing” or “I can’t believe they chose me as the lead again” can make you seem disingenuous. People appreciate authenticity over hidden boasts. If you’re proud of something, own it, but there’s no need to wrap it in false humility.
12. Taking Yourself Too Seriously
People enjoy being around those who can laugh at themselves. If you’re overly serious or get defensive about minor things, it can be hard for other people to relax around you and build a connection with you. A little self-deprecating humor and an easygoing attitude can go a long way in making people feel comfortable. It shows you’re approachable and can lighten the mood when things get too intense.
13. Never Saying “Thank You”
Gratitude is such a simple thing, but it’s amazing how many people forget it. Skipping a “thank you” when someone does something nice, even something small, just makes you seem unappreciative. Showing a little gratitude isn’t just polite; it makes people feel valued and respected. A sincere “thank you” is often all it takes to make people feel seen and appreciated.
