The Struggles of Menopause Women Never Talk About but Should

The Struggles of Menopause Women Never Talk About but Should

Menopause isn’t just hot flashes and night sweats—it’s a total life shake-up that hits every corner of your existence. Despite it affecting women across the planet, hardly anyone talks about the tough stuff. So, if you’ve felt like you’re battling this alone, trust me, you’re not. Let’s dive into some of the most overlooked and misunderstood struggles of menopause that really deserve a little more airtime.

1. Feeling Exhausted All the Time

This isn’t your run-of-the-mill tiredness, it’s “Why am I this wiped out when I just woke up?” fatigue. Hormonal changes during menopause can leave you running on empty even after a good night’s sleep. It’s not laziness or lack of will—it’s your body adjusting to some major internal shifts. And let’s be honest, no one really warns you about this level of exhaustion.

2. Forgetting Basic Stuff

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Walking into a room and forgetting why? Misplacing your keys for the third time today? Welcome to the brain fog of menopause. It’s beyond just inconvenient—it’s unsettling. You start wondering if something more serious is going on, but really, it’s just your hormones playing tricks on your memory. It’s embarrassing and frustrating, but also surprisingly common. We should talk about it more.

3. Emotional Whiplash

One minute you’re laughing at a silly meme, and the next, you’re crying over a random commercial. Hormones can turn your emotions into a full-blown rollercoaster. People might call you overly dramatic—it’s your body adjusting to fluctuating estrogen levels. And let’s be real, when no one else talks about it, it’s easy to feel like you’re the only one losing it over a puppy video.

4. Sleeping Like a Teenager—Barely

Remember how you used to sleep like a rock? Menopause changes all that. Between night sweats, random wake-ups, and just not being able to fall back asleep, getting rest becomes an uphill battle. It’s like your body forgot how to switch off. No wonder so many women feel cranky and drained during the day—it’s impossible to function without good sleep.

5. The Unwanted Weight Gain

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Out of nowhere, your favorite jeans don’t fit anymore. It’s not like you’re eating differently, but the scale keeps creeping up. Blame it on hormones slowing down your metabolism, because diet and exercise suddenly don’t cut it. It can feel like your body is betraying you on every front.

6. Intimacy Changes

Even if intimacy was never an issue before, menopause can change everything. Between hormonal shifts and physical discomfort, your desire might take a major nosedive. It’s not that you love your partner any less; it’s just harder to get in the mood when your body feels like it’s on a completely different wavelength.

7. Hair Drama

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Your once-thick locks start thinning, and suddenly, your hairbrush feels like the enemy. Menopause-related hair changes can hit hard, whether it’s shedding, breakage, or texture changes. It’s not just about vanity—it’s about losing a piece of what makes you feel like you. Seeing this happen without much warning stings more than people realize.

8. Surprise Joint Pain

When your knees start cracking every time you stand, it feels like menopause aged you overnight. Joint pain sneaks up on you, making simple tasks like getting out of bed or climbing stairs feel like an Olympic event. It’s not just about getting older—it’s your hormones wreaking havoc on your body.

9. Being Hyper-Sensitive

Suddenly, the world feels overwhelming. Smells are too strong, noises are too loud, and even the fabric of your clothes can irritate you. Menopause can make your senses go haywire, leaving you feeling frazzled by things that never bothered you before. It’s strange, it’s disorienting, and it’s another thing no one prepares you for.

10. Skin That’s All Over the Place

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Dry, itchy, or breaking out like you’re 16 again—menopause can do a number on your skin. Those hormonal shifts throw everything off balance, and it’s not just annoying—it’s one more reminder that your body isn’t the same anymore. You’re not being high-maintenance, your skin genuinely needs some extra TLC right now.

11. Pulling Away from Friends

When you’re tired, cranky, or just not feeling like yourself, it’s easy to cancel plans and retreat into your own little bubble. Social withdrawal is a sneaky side effect of menopause, and it can leave you feeling even more isolated. Staying connected takes effort, but it’s worth it to keep from feeling completely alone during this massive life change.

12. Weird Changes with Food

Suddenly, your favorite meals don’t sit right, or you’re craving things you haven’t eaten in years. Menopause can mess with your digestion and taste buds, leaving you confused about what your body actually wants. It’s like your relationship with food has to be completely re-learned, and that’s a frustrating adjustment no one talks about enough.

13. Losing a Sense of Self

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Menopause isn’t just physical—it’s emotional, too. Many women describe feeling like they’ve lost touch with who they are. The changes feel all-encompassing, making you question your identity beyond what your body is doing. It’s a deeply personal journey, and while it’s tough, it’s also an opportunity to rediscover what really matters to you.

This content was created by a real person with the assistance of AI.

Phoebe Mertens is a writer, speaker, and strategist who has helped dozens of female-founded and led companies reach success in areas such a finance, tech, science, and fashion. Her keen eye for detail and her innovative approach to modern womanhood makes her one of the most sought-out in her industry, and there's nothing she loves more than to see these companies shine.

With an MBA from NYU's Stern School of Business and features in Forbes and Fast Company she Phoebe has proven she knows her stuff. While she doesn't use social media, she does have a private Instagram just to look at pictures of cats.