13 Surprising Signs Your Relationship Is Doomed From The Beginning

Your new relationship might seem perfect at the moment, but watch out for these 13 signs that might reveal it for what it really is: completely doomed.

  1. It feels like an actual fairytale. If it feels way too good to be true from the start, watch out because it definitely is. You want someone who’s honest from the very beginning. Fairytales are nice and all but they’re also highly unrealistic and full of fluff.
  2. He keeps saying how lucky he is to have you. It’s normal to lay the compliments and sweet nothings on thick in the beginning, but if he seems like he’s always in disbelief that you’re with him, maybe it’s because you guys really shouldn’t be together after all.
  3. Your friends are asking you how things are going with him, like, a lot. Your friends are kinda surprised you’re with this guy considering he’s not the type of dude you usually choose to date. They’re mildly concerned about you and just want to make sure you know what you’re doing. Do you?
  4. You met on an app. It’s totally possible to find your true love on an app, but just remember that perhaps the reason you guys even clicked was that you both wanted a relationship at the time, not because you actually have a lot in common. Also, dating online is so easy—he didn’t have to do much besides sending a few clever messages to get you to meet with him. It’s not like he was holding a boombox over his head outside your window in the pouring rain. You were easy to get by default and that alone could be reason enough to just start dating on a whim with no solid foundation beneath you.
  5. It started out as both of you just “keeping it casual.” You both agreed that it would be a good idea to just keep it casual. Do you know why you both thought that upon meeting each other? Because upon sizing each other up, you couldn’t really picture getting married to this person, they’re not really your type, but they’re cute so why not do a casual thing? The danger is that people end up catching feelings later on and then you end up stuck in a relationship with someone who you would’ve never normally given a second glance.
  6. He lets you down in a big way in the first few weeks. People are usually on their best behavior in the first few weeks of dating. If he did something big like forget about a date or hurt your feelings in a deep way, then he’s obviously not in relationship mode and it’ll probably be ending pretty soon.
  7. You can’t seem to get past small talk. Every time you try to talk about something personal or deep, it just doesn’t go over well. You can’t really put your finger on it but he just isn’t interested in revealing deep secrets about himself like you are, which is a sure sign that your relationship isn’t built to last.
  8. You kinda got together by accident. He didn’t formally ask you out on a date as your first encounter—it was probably something like hooking up by accident at a party and then being like, “Sure, let’s do this…I guess.” Not the best way to start things.
  9. You actively ignored your usual dealbreakers. Whether it’s his drinking habits or his messy apartment, you made a decision to look past a big dealbreaker for you to just see what happens. Big mistake. You should have listened to your gut.
  10. You don’t see eye-to-eye on politics. Any other time period would be fine but in 2018, if your political views don’t align with your partner’s, there’s a huge chance that things won’t work out for the two of you.
  11. One of you is dealing with an addiction. When one partner is dealing with an addiction, it tends to rule the relationship. Sure, it may not seem like a big deal in the beginning and you might even have hope that you’ll be the one to finally drag them into sobriety, but more often than not, it’ll be the reason why the relationship has to end.
  12. You literally never disagree on anything. Fighting a lot is usually a sign that a relationship is doomed but actually, not fighting at all is even worse. It means you aren’t being honest with each other and if both people refuse to communicate, you won’t really have much of a relationship.
  13. You can’t imagine telling them something that could potentially hurt their feelings. This is a sign that your personalities clash. You’re either too sensitive to criticism or your partner is. You’re constantly living in fear of either being judged by them or accidentally hurting their feelings. That’s no way to be and a sign that your relationship will probably be short-lived, unfortunately.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

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