13 Things A Guy Does When He Respects You

Chances are, you’ve been dating the wrong guys. That’s why none of your relationships have lasted. This one seems different, though. He makes you feel amazing, but does he treat you with respect or is he just better than your ex? If he does these 15 things, he respects you and might actually be “The One.”

  1. He loves listening to you talk. He loves when you share your opinions. It’s one of the reasons he’s attracted to you. Whether you’re talking about the weather or the fate of humanity, he listens with a smile. He asks for your thoughts on topics because he likes hearing your passion and truly respects what you have to say.
  2. He’s not afraid of commitment. A respectful guy doesn’t lead you on with promises of forever. He’s honest, straightforward, and not afraid of commitment. Sounds like a dream. If he’s with you it’s because he sees a future with you. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t waste his time or yours.
  3. He asks genuine questions. When he asks how you are, it’s because he genuinely wants to know the answer. He’s constantly trying to understand you. He asks questions, listens, and opens up about himself. He looks you in the eyes when you talk and makes you feel comfortable enough to share your truth.
  4. He wants you to know him. He introduced you to his family without you having to ask. That’s how you know he respects you. He wanted you to know him and a part of that was knowing who raised him. He was eager to meet your family too. When a guy respects you, he wants to see every aspect of your life.
  5. He doesn’t let jealousy control him. Everyone gets jealous, but a respectful guy won’t let jealousy consume him. If he can’t deal with it alone, he’ll talk to you about it before the problem overwhelms him. He won’t pout and create drama when it’s not necessary. At the end of the day, he trusts you and knows you wouldn’t purposely hurt him.
  6. He gives you his full attention. When you’re together, you’re 100% together. He’s not staring at other people or checking his phone every 10 seconds. You have his undivided attention, especially when you’re in a conversation. That’s important!
  7. He pushes you. He gets you out of your comfort zone but he’s subtle about it. He doesn’t bully you with threats or tries to make you feel insecure. You feel safe with him, so you’re more comfortable taking risks and trying new things.
  8. He feels your pain. If something’s upsetting you in the relationship, it’s upsetting him too. He won’t go to bed when you’re crying and the last thing he’d ever do is ignore you. He feels your pain and will stop at nothing to make things better.
  9. He wants to learn from you. He doesn’t pretend like he knows everything. He’ll ask your opinion on subjects you know more about. Are you a great writer? He’ll probably ask you to review an email or proposal, but not because he’s using you. He knows you’re more knowledgeable and he wants to learn.
  10. He lets you be yourself. He hates your taste in music but he’ll deal with it. The point is, he doesn’t force you to change. He’ll watch horror movies and go to dinner with your girlfriends because he knows how much it means to you. He wants to make you happy!
  11. He works to please you sexually. Do you know what a disrespectful guy does? He finishes and goes right back to bed. A respectful guy wouldn’t dare. Sure, he might not make you “O” every time, but he’ll sure as hell do his best.
  12. He tells his friends about you. His friends know details about your life. Nothing too personal, of course. They know about the promotion you got at work and about the summer vacation you booked. He shares your accomplishments, no matter how small, with his inner circle because he’s so proud of who you are.
  13. He leans on you. He’s not afraid to need you. Whether he’s sick or stressed, he trusts you to help him feel better. To him, you’re home, which is why he’s most comfortable when he’s with you. Although he likes being the alpha, he’s OK taking a beta role. He’s not too proud to show vulnerability.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.