13 Things I Should Thank My BFF For More Often—And So Should You

Of course you (hopefully) say thank you to your best friend after opening the birthday present she just gave you or when she buys your coffee for you when you can’t find your debit card. Sometimes gratitude goes without saying, but there are many things that my best friend has done for me that I’ve probably never thanked her for but definitely should.

  1. Listening to me complain about problems I directly created for myself And she probably also warned me beforehand that I was about to do something I would regret. Instead of saying “I told you so” or getting annoyed, she still listens and helps me figure out a solution.
  2. Being honest even when the truth might hurt me She’s never just agreed with one of my ideas to be nice or to avoid hurting my feelings. She tells me what she honestly believes even if it’s not the answer I’m looking for.
  3. Calling me out on my crap If she notices that I’m being unnecessarily bitchy or I’m engaging in self-destructive behaviors, she doesn’t sugarcoat how she feels about it and forces me to acknowledge the way I’m acting.
  4. Leaving the bar with me when I’m tired/sick/not in the mood to be around other people Even if she’s having a good time, she knows immediately when I’m not feeling being there and will offer to leave with me.
  5. Always being up for some last-minute adventure From road trips to randomly getting a new piercing to going out in a new city, when I want to do something different, she’s usually up for the adventure and we have a lot more fun than if I were to go alone.
  6. Forcing me to do the things that I absolutely need to get done and helping me do them Usually, these things are definitely not fun or easy but she still offers to help me without complaining (in fact, I’m usually the one complaining). I have a tendency to put things off until the last minute and half-ass them, but when my best friend knows I have something important that needs to get done, she makes sure it happens.
  7. Not getting upset when we haven’t hung out or talked in a while Sometimes, life is busy and it’s easy to get caught up in a new job or a new apartment or a new relationship. There have been times when weeks would pass between us hanging out, but she never holds that against me or makes me feel bad about it.
  8. Not judging me even though she knows every one of my secrets and every mistake I’ve made I know that there’s nothing I can’t tell her, including the embarrassing things I would usually keep to myself. She’s also been there to witness first hand many of my not-so-fabulous moments (like the time I threw up on her brother, for example) but she still accepts me for who I am and loves me anyway.
  9. Knowing how I’m feeling or what I’m thinking without me saying it Sometimes, she knows how I feel about something before I even know. If I’m tired or in a bad mood, she can instantly tell before I even open my mouth.
  10. Coming with me to do things that are usually boring Whether it’s a doctors appointment or putting air in my tires, when there’s something I have to do that’s definitely not going to be fun, she offers to come with me and doesn’t complain when it takes longer than expected.
  11. Being there for me even when it’s inconvenient From driving me to the airport in pouring rain or picking me up from a party because I was too drunk to drive, if I need something, she’s there for me even when it’s inconvenient.
  12. Reminding me what I deserve when it comes to relationships If a guy is playing games with me, being indirect, or being controlling, she tells me to stop accepting this kind of behavior and that I deserve better. She reminds me to stop letting people treat me less than I deserve and makes me a stronger and more confident person.
  13. Making me feel like family. Whether I’m with her every single day for a week, on vacation with her family, or haven’t seen her in the past month, she always makes me feel like I’m a part of her family. From showering, doing laundry and leaving half of my wardrobe at her house, she always makes me feel comfortable and welcomed.
Kerry is a freelance writer from Boston, Massachusetts who now lives in the Sunshine State with the love of her life and her 15 month old daughter. She writes frequently about her personal experiences (find more of her work on www.followmetogetlost.wordpress.com). She has an Etsy shop with cute items: https://www.etsy.com/shop/FollowMeToGetLostWhen she's not writing, she loves to spend time outside, at the beach, and with her family.