13 Things You Think Mean He’s Super Into You That Are Really Signs To GTFO Of The Relationship

13 Things You Think Mean He’s Super Into You That Are Really Signs To GTFO Of The Relationship ©iStock/eli_asenova

When a guy seems like he’s way too interested in you too soon, it’s alarm bells that should be ringing —not wedding bells. Here are 13 signs it’s time to kick that creepy guy out of your life before things get any more awkward, uncomfortable, or even dangerous.

  1. He’s way too excited about your shared interestsYou both love adrenaline sports or going to the movies. Cool. If he’s enthusiastic about your mutual interests, he’s clearly into you. However, if he finds out you’re into Latin dancing, books a class without asking you first if you’d like to go and then makes a whole big thing out of it, it starts to feel OTT and like he’s trying too hard to be liked.
  2. He already misses you… after the first date. It’s only been one coffee date but he’s already sending you long messages about how much he misses you and can’t wait to see you again. Whoa, slow down! There’s a thin line between someone who’s keen to see you again and downright desperate and/or obsessed from day one and he’s crossed it.
  3. He’s throwing out the big guns. By “guns” I mean romantic gestures. He hardly knows you but he’s sending bouquets of roses to your workplace to tell you how wonderful you are. Yikes. Someone just went from making you feel romanced to making you want to run. Did you even tell him where you worked?
  4. He texts all day, every day. He sends you messages throughout the day and especially when you tell him you’ll be in meetings at work or very busy with other things. This isn’t romantic — it’s a sign that he can’t respect your boundaries and your life outside of him.
  5. He wants to go away… on your second date. You met once, had a great time and really felt a strong connection… but he wants your second date to be a romantic weekend getaway. Clearly he’s just looking to score or he’s really creepy AF.
  6. He gets annoyed when you can’t see him. You might think it’s cute that he gets angry when you have to change your date plans to another night, but it’s not. Beware of the man who can’t handle “no” and throws a fit when he doesn’t get his own way. He’s a control freak.
  7. He surprises you by showing up unannounced. You think it’s sweet when he comes to pick you up for a date without calling first to see if A) you actually feel like going out, B) don’t already have plans, and C) need to get ready first. It might feel romantic, but it’s like he expects you to be ready for him all the time. You have a life, for goodness’ sake.
  8. He tries to take care of you… and it gets creepy. It’s really heartwarming when a guy wants to love you and take care of you, but it can become creepy when he takes this too far. Look out for the guy who starts advising you on how to live your life “because he cares so much about you” and the guy who starts to make your decisions for you, from what you should order at dinner to where you should get a new job.
  9. He uses your insecurities to make you love him. When you were getting to know each other, you told him you’re insecure about your hair and wish you’d been born with straight hair instead of having to make your hair tools your BFFs. So on your date, the first thing he says when he sees you is, “Your hair’s so gorgeous and straight!” Ugh. You can see right through this to the insecure man who’s trying way too hard to get you to like him.
  10. He doesn’t respect your alone time. He turns up at places you said you were going to be, whether alone or with friends. It’s like he’s checking up on you or can’t handle a night without you. Clinger and stalker alert!
  11. He fights for you — literally. A man who fights another guy for you is NOT sexy — he can be really scary and reveal serious issues. For instance, if you’re out at a party and he gets very upset about some other guy ogling over you to the point where he starts throwing punches, this is a sign he’s possessive and insanely jealous.
  12. He knows a lot about you. You might think it’s sexy that he’s so mysterious, like a puzzle you have to figure out, but not if you’ve been dating for a while and you don’t know much about him. It gets even worse if he knows loads about you but keeps himself behind locked doors. This is a sign that he could be obsessed with you, wanting to know all your secrets and details.
  13. He makes you feel you’re the only thing that matters. What’s wrong with that, you ask? A man should care about a lot of things, not just you. If he keeps complimenting you, accommodating you and seems like he just wants to revolve his life around you, this is a sign of a helpless, insecure and damaged man — not the kind of guy you want in your life. Soon, all the attention he’s showering you with will start to feel claustrophobic instead of charming.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.