Let’s face it—sometimes life throws those moments at you when you’re really tempted to do something, even if you know deep down it’s probably not the best move. Whether it’s to vent, feel better in the short term, or just prove a poi nt, some impulses are better left unchecked. So, here’s a heads-up: 13 things you should absolutely avoid doing, no matter how strong the urge feels.
1. Sending that emotional text
We’ve all felt the rush of needing to hit “send” on a text that’s a little too raw. But trust us, the regret is real when that emotional storm passes. Those impulsive texts can leave you feeling a whole lot worse, not better. Type it out if you need to, but don’t send it. Give it an hour (or a day), and see if you still want to press that button. Chances are, you won’t.
2. Posting your frustrations on social media
ShutterstockSocial media is tempting when you’re feeling heated or misunderstood. But using it as your personal venting space? That’s a hard no. What seems justified in the moment often feels like a bad idea when you’re calmer. Save yourself from future cringes and awkward conversations—talk it out with a friend instead. Trust me, it’s worth avoiding the digital regret spiral.
3. Sacrificing your needs to keep everyone happy
ShutterstockSaying “yes” when you really mean “no” just to avoid rocking the boat might feel like the easiest option, but it chips away at you bit by bit. People who constantly bend over backward for others end up exhausted and resentful. Setting boundaries is tough, but it’s also how you teach others that your well-being matters too.
4. Lashing out when you’re angry
Anger has a way of making everything feel urgent and justified. But reacting in that fiery moment is usually never going to be your best move. Take a step back, go for a walk, or just breathe. Let yourself cool down before you say or do something that’ll keep you up at night thinking, “Why did I say that?” Trust me, a little space can save you from a mountain of regret.
5. Ignoring that gut feeling
ShutterstockThere’s that voice inside that whispers, “Something’s off,” but it’s easy to brush it aside, especially when you want things to work out a certain way. Don’t. Your gut is a pretty reliable compass, even if you don’t know why it’s bothering you, listen to it. Whether it’s about people, decisions, or situations, trusting your instinct can keep you out of regret territory.
6. Keeping quiet when you know you need to speak up
ShutterstockSilence feels safe, especially when speaking up means risking conflict or awkwardness. But staying quiet when your gut is nudging you to say something only leads to that “I should have said it” feeling later. Your voice matters, even if it wobbles a little when you use it. Practicing speaking up, even in small ways, is how you build the confidence to do it when it really counts.
7. Making choices out of FOMO
FOMO is real, and it can make you say “yes” to things that you don’t actually want to do. But living out of fear of missing out often leads to more regret than actual satisfaction. Before making a move, ask yourself if you’re doing it for you or just because you don’t want to feel left out. Trust that what’s truly meant for you will find its way to you, no frantic chasing needed.
8. Pretending to be someone you’re not
We’ve all done it—tweaked our personality a bit to fit in or impress someone. But trying to be someone else just to be liked is purely exhausting and never lasts. The right people will vibe with you for who you actually are, not who you’re pretending to be. Be you, unapologetically. The connections that come from authenticity are the ones that stick around.
9. Reliving past mistakes over and over
ShutterstockWe all have those cringe moments that pop into our minds at 2 a.m., but dwelling on them doesn’t change anything. It just keeps you stuck in the past, unable to move forward. Mistakes happen so you can learn, not so you can set up camp there. Reflect, take the lesson, and then move on. Treat yourself with the same kindness you’d give a friend who’s being too hard on themselves.
10. Holding onto grudges
ShutterstockThere’s a weird comfort in holding a grudge—it feels like taking control or standing your ground. But really, it’s just carrying a heavy load that doesn’t serve you. Letting go doesn’t mean you’re saying what happened was okay; it means you’re freeing yourself from the weight of it. Choose your own peace over the bitterness. Your heart (and your stress levels) will thank you.
11. Saying “yes” to everything to prove your worth
There’s a fine line between being helpful and running yourself ragged trying to be everything to everyone. Overcommitting to show you’re capable or reliable ends up draining you and doing the opposite. It’s okay to set boundaries and prioritize yourself. Saying “no” sometimes doesn’t make you less dependable; it shows you value your time and energy. And that’s a trait worth respecting.
12. Downplaying your successes
“Oh, it was nothing,” or “I just got lucky”—sound familiar? Downplaying your achievements might feel like humility, but it’s actually denying yourself deserved recognition. Embrace your wins, big or small. People who care about you want to celebrate you, so let them. And let yourself feel proud, too. Own your efforts and accomplishments; they’re yours, and you worked for them.
13. Jumping to conclusions
It’s all too easy to read into a situation and assume the worst when things are unclear. But jumping to conclusions usually leads to unnecessary drama and misunderstandings. If you’re not sure, ask. Clarify before your mind runs away with theories. It’s better for your peace of mind and keeps things from spiraling into conflict that could have been avoided with one honest conversation.
