13 Ways Women With High Emotional Intelligence Kill It In Relationships

Women with high EQs do a lot differently; they make fantastic partners because their ability to relate to another person is off the charts. Having high emotional intelligence is a huge asset and is especially useful in romantic relationships. Here are 13 things women with high EQs do differently in relationships.

  1. They’re flawless active listeners. Talking to a woman with high emotional intelligence is beautiful because you always know that she’s listening. You know this because her body language says so and so does her eye contact. She nods when you’re speaking and she responds to things that you say at appropriate times. These women really know how to make someone feel heard and this helps immensely when in relationships. Active listening is so important, and they’ve got it down pat.
  2. They’re great communicators. Communication is second nature to these women. They’re able to share their feelings, ask appropriate questions, and have a great back and forth discussion. Similarly to their active listening skills, you can tell that they’re present when you’re conversing with each other. They know how and when to speak up; allowing for the challenging conversations to be a bit easier.
  3. They’re willing to have tough conversations. Not only are they good with challenging conversations, but they’re willing to have them, which is more than what you can say about someone with low EQ. They don’t avoid difficult discussions like fights or disagreements. Instead, they take a deep breath and they jump right in with an open mind, reading to discuss matters in a civil way. They stay conscious of their state of mind, leading them to have the best conversation possible. 
  4. They have great self-awareness. It’s super important for everyone to be self-aware, but women who are highly emotionally intelligent have a self-awareness that’s off-the-charts. They closely monitor their interactions with others, how they’re feeling, and what their needs are. This self-awareness leads them to be good at asking for what they need and rejecting what they don’t.
  5. They have great boundaries and can say “no.” Since they’re so aware, these women know when they don’t need something or someone in their life. They aren’t afraid to act on what their needs are. As a result, the word “no” comes out of their mouth more than your average person because they aren’t afraid to reserve the space in their life they know they deserve. They aren’t afraid of what other people think of them and they don’t say “no” in an angry way, they use just the right level of assertiveness. 
  6. They respond from a centered place rather than react in anger.Look, I’m not saying women with high EQs are perfect, but they do a really good job in many ways. They do their best in all situations, one being to breathe into their anger and not act on it. Instead of reacting, they try to respond from a centered place. They don’t always do this perfectly, but they do a damn good job. This makes fights in romantic relationships much easier, leaving much less damage behind. 
  7. They’re great judges of character. You can usually find women with high EQs surrounded by some of the most amazing people. They really know how to judge whether someone’s a good person to be around or not. This is because they care deeply about their energy levels and how others are affecting them. This often leaves them in romantic relationships with good people.
  8. They can read people like nobody’s business. These women can smell sadness from a mile away. They can also feel joy, anger, and weird vibes. They have tremendous feelers. Most women with high EQs are also empaths, leaving them sensitive to a lot of things. This sensitivity is great in relationships because there’s no hiding. These women know when something’s up.
  9. They’re good at meeting other people where they’re at. When someone’s having a tough time, women with high emotional intelligence know how to meet them right where they are. They know what to talk about when someone’s having a difficult day or they know just to listen. Their barometer’s for feeling out where people are at leaves them better able to know what to do as a partner or friend.
  10. They can go with the flow. One of the magical things about these women is that they’re able to quickly and easily adapt to change. The only constant in life is change, so this leaves them at a huge advantage. They don’t freak out when plans change or when a big adjustment comes up, they just take a deep breath and do their best to go with it.
  11. They don’t keep score or hold grudges. One of the biggest ways people can do harm in relationships is by keeping score of everything their partner’s do wrong. Well, women with high emotional intelligence don’t do this. They deal with issues as they come up and they let them go as appropriate. If something’s bad enough that they’d want to start keeping score, they probably leave.
  12. They’re not perfectionists. Women with high emotional intelligence do their best not to be perfectionists. They know that they’re good enough without feeling the need to try to make sure everything’s perfect. This is helpful in relationships because it gives the other person room to be a human.
  13. They practice gratitude. Taking time to be grateful goes so far in life and these women know this. They practice gratitude for all of the good things that their partner’s and friends do for them, leaving their hearts full and open. 
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at ginelletesta.com.