14 Things That Say “I Love You” Better Than The Words

It’s always this big deal to say those three little words. What if you didn’t have to say them at all? What if there was a better way? Sometimes actions speak far louder than words. In this case, learning to say “I love you” without words proves that old cliche. You can say it all you want, but these simple actions go beyond words and show how you truly feel.

Of course, these are also great if you’re in a new relationship and don’t want to be the first to say “I love you.” Go ahead and show your man how much you love him without saying the words. While saying it sometimes is nice, proving it is even more important.

  1. Comforting touches. Laying your hand on his or gently rubbing his shoulder when he’s stressed shows you know he’s upset and that you want to make him feel better. You might not know what to say, but your touch lets him know you’re there and that you love him.
  2. Compromising without a fight. It might seem overly simple, but giving in sometimes when he wants to watch the big game or wants you to tag along for a family cook-out with the in-laws you hate definitely says “I love you.” You could fight about it, but compromising now and then means the world to him.
  3. Paying attention, even if you’re bored. You might not be into the same things he is, but paying attention to his stories is important. You’d want him to do the same. Ask a few questions to prove you’re listening and he’ll feel the love even more.
  4. Giving him a genuine smile for no reason. A simple smile that lights up your face when he walks by shows him you love him. It’s a smile that’s only for him and it makes him feel special and more loved than three words could ever do. You already feel happy to see him, so smile and show it.
  5. Being supportive. Bashing your man’s dreams just crushes his ego. Prove you love him by supporting him. Maybe he wants to go back to school or start his own business. Tell him you’re proud of him and work with him to help him figure out how to do it.
  6. Deep, passionate kisses. There are some kisses that just don’t happen unless you’re in love. Deep, passionate kisses are one of those. They show how much you want someone, but at the same time, show you want them for more than sex. Besides, they’re fun, so it’s a win-win. Plus, it’s one of the ways guys show their feelings, so he’ll definitely get the hint.
  7. Saying “thank you” sometimes. After a while, you just expect your man to take out the trash or wash dishes when it’s his turn. You take for granted that he’ll bring you your favorite take out when you’re sick. Stop and say “thank you” sometimes. It’ll take him by surprise and remind him that he really is loved.
  8. Leaving him a simple note. I’m not talking about a text either. Leaving a written note in his lunch saying “I want you” or “I miss you” means the world to him. If he has to go on a trip, a note in his luggage saying “sleep well” or “have fun” lets him know you’re thinking about him. That alone lets him know you love him.
  9. Encouraging him to share his worries. Guys are closed by nature. They’re trained to not share anything, except gas. Sit down and encourage him to talk about what’s wrong when he seems stressed or worried. He’ll appreciate you wanting to know. He knows only those who truly love him would care enough to take that much time.
  10. Helping him relax. Believe it or not, something as simple as a neck rub or a head scratch says “I love you.” Noticing your man is tense and doing something to help him relax is as good as saying the words. Whether it’s a massage or taking him to do something he loves, he’ll love you for it.
  11. Trying things you don’t want to do. Your man already knows you’re not thrilled about certain things. Say “I love you” by volunteering to do those things once in a while. Maybe he really wants to play paintball for his birthday while you’d rather do anything else. Go ahead and do it this once.
  12. Giving him a little gift. No, not that kind of gift. I’m thinking more along the lines of that new video game he’s been wanting or something new to add to his collection of Chevy memorabilia. A simple gift now and then lets him know you love him and were thinking about him.
  13. Accepting his differences. You could make a big deal about his style or tendency to laugh at all the wrong times. He already knows he’s different. Accepting his differences without any nagging melts his heart and says “I love you” better than words.
  14. Laughing at his bad jokes. Trust me, he knows his jokes are horrible. Laughing and making it seem real is one of the easiest ways to express your love. It boosts his ego and reminds him how lucky he is to have someone who loves him so much.

Go ahead and say the words, but don’t forget to back them up. These little actions often say it better than the words themselves. Try a few and see how your man reacts.

Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.