Trying to get over a guy isn’t always the easiest thing. Sometimes it just takes time to heal, and other times we’re just being really stubborn and holding onto something that isn’t ours. In those circumstances where we’re either over-talking about it and we just feel weird for still caring, we might think it’s best to fake being over him. Here are some ways we do it even when we’re still crying inside.
- Talking about him in an overly casual way. You’re not going to mention that you dreamed about him all night, but you will try to fit his most recent SnapChat into the conversation. Not like you care or whatever.
- Being overly enthusiastic when you find out he’s moved on. It would betray your feelings to act upset about his new girl, so your veer in the opposite direction and act weirdly thrilled.
- Skipping nights out so that you don’t drunk cry. You could trust your emotions to stay inside once you’ve got a few glasses of wine in you, so you’ll pass until you’re on more stable ground.
- Talking about how bad the sex was. It wasn’t really, but there’s always something to critique, and it makes you feel better to feel like you deserve better.
- Saying that now that he’s gone, you can finally redecorate. In actuality, you’re just trying to get every last memory of him out of your space.
- Trying to be friends with him. You figure having some of him in your life is better than none of him, so you put a brave face and attempt transitioning into friend zone.
- Straight up lying. Your friends check in from time to time to see how you’re feeling about the breakup and you continue to insist you’re great and overcompensate about your emotional state, no matter what.
- Posting the most fun looking photos ever. You basically attended that backyard BBQ just to get a photo of yourself looking happy that you could put through to Facebook and hopefully send the message that you’re fine.
- Becoming overly busy to distract yourself. Who knew breakups could be so productive? You’ve already finished your massive months long to-do list and mastered every way to cook eggs.
- Trying to convince everyone that the breakup was “for the best”. That’s not at all how it felt (or feels), but it happened regardless, so how else are you supposed to explain it without crying?
- Dating the next guy that comes along. They call it a rebound for a reason, and it happens all the time. Whether it works or not is up for debate.
- Secretly hoping that you’ll run into him. You’re not even admitting it to yourself, but yes, you did do your hair and got extra cute looking to hit the grocery store that you know he frequents.
- Proclaiming that you’re over it the second it’s over. Unless you hated the guy, it’ll probably take more than an hour to move on… and yet here you are saying otherwise.
- Befriending the ex’s new woman. He’s close enough to your social circle that you’ve actually met the new girl, and you’re imagining that if you get to know her, you might actually feel happy for them. Or something.
