15 Admirable Boomer Habits Ruined by the Next Generation

15 Admirable Boomer Habits Ruined by the Next Generation

Boomers lived in a world where politeness, consideration, and respect for others were everyday norms, and their habits reflected that. While the times have changed, some of their admirable habits and traditions are slowly disappearing, leaving gaps in how we connect and show kindness today. From punctuality to handwritten notes, these thoughtful practices are a testament to a simpler time that valued relationships and consideration. Here are 15 habits Boomers nailed—and the next generation is letting slip away.

1. Showing Up With a Host Gift

Boomers knew the value of showing gratitude, especially when invited into someone’s home. Bringing a small token—a bottle of wine, flowers, or even a dessert—was second nature. It wasn’t about the size of the gift but the gesture itself, which said, “I appreciate you inviting me.” Today, it’s all too common to show up empty-handed or forget this altogether. This simple act isn’t about extravagance but a way of showing respect for your host’s efforts.

2. Taking Time to Write Thank-You Notes

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There’s something deeply personal about receiving a handwritten thank-you note, and Boomers perfected this tradition. Whether for a birthday gift, a kind gesture, or hosting a dinner, they understood the significance of saying thanks in writing. Unlike quick texts or emojis, a card reflects time and thoughtfulness. Unfortunately, this habit is fading, with many opting for generic messages. Reclaiming the charm of thank-you notes would breathe warmth into today’s fast-paced, digital-first world.

3. Holding Doors for Everyone

Holding the door isn’t just good manners—it’s a reflection of an empathetic mindset. Boomers didn’t overthink this simple habit; it was second nature to ensure the person behind them didn’t have to struggle. This thoughtful act wasn’t reserved for certain people; it was for anyone and everyone. Today, this gesture feels less common, replaced by rushed or distracted behavior. But taking two seconds to hold the door is a small, impactful way to show consideration.

4. Always RSVPing On Time

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Ignoring RSVPs was a no-go for Boomers. Whether it was a wedding, dinner, or casual gathering, responding promptly was a mark of respect for the host. They understood that planning an event required numbers, and leaving someone hanging wasn’t just rude—it was thoughtless. Today, RSVP culture is riddled with delays and ghosting, leaving hosts scrambling last minute. Taking the time to reply isn’t just courteous; it helps the host plan and shows appreciation for their effort.

5. Dressing Appropriately for Every Occasion

Boomers respected the dress code, whether it was for a formal event, job interview, or family dinner. Dressing appropriately wasn’t about vanity; it was about respect—for the occasion, the people involved, and oneself. Showing up in the right attire sent a message of effort and thoughtfulness. Today, casual clothing dominates, even in settings that once called for something more polished. Taking a cue from Boomers here could help revive the lost art of dressing with purpose.

6. Being Punctual as a Sign of Respect

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Punctuality wasn’t optional for Boomers—it was expected. Arriving on time demonstrated respect for other people’s schedules and set the tone for any gathering or meeting. Tardiness was seen as selfish, as it signaled that your time was more important than everyone else’s. In a world that’s grown accustomed to running late, this simple habit stands out as a way to show you value others. Plus, it keeps things running smoothly and avoids unnecessary stress.

7. Saying “Excuse Me” as a Reflex

Whether they accidentally bumped into someone or needed to pass by, Boomers reflexively said, “Excuse me.” It wasn’t about over-apologizing; it was about maintaining a polite, respectful atmosphere. This small phrase softened potential tension and showed awareness of others. Nowadays, those moments are often met with silence, making simple interactions feel colder. Reviving this habit can help bring back a little more humanity to everyday encounters.

8. Listening Without Interrupting

Active listening was a cornerstone of communication for Boomers. They let people finish their thoughts without jumping in or dominating the conversation. It showed respect for the speaker and kept discussions meaningful and productive. Today, interruptions are all too common, with people rushing to make their point. Practicing this simple habit creates better dialogue, stronger connections, and a sense of being truly heard—a skill we could all benefit from mastering again.

9. Saying Proper Goodbyes

Leaving a gathering without a proper goodbye was unthinkable for Boomers. Whether it was a casual get-together or a formal event, taking the time to acknowledge the host and others before leaving showed respect and gratitude. It created a sense of closure and left interactions on a positive note. Today, ghosting has crept into even face-to-face interactions, making this thoughtful habit all the more special when practiced.

10. Keeping Noise Levels in Check

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Being mindful of noise was second nature to Boomers. Whether at a restaurant, movie theater, or home, they kept their voices at a respectful level. This wasn’t just about rules; it was about showing consideration for others sharing the space. In today’s world of loud phone calls and public rants, this habit feels increasingly rare. Keeping the volume down is an easy way to make shared spaces more pleasant for everyone.

11. Prioritizing Face-to-Face Conversations

For Boomers, nothing beat the value of in-person interactions. Whether it was catching up with a friend over coffee or resolving conflicts face-to-face, they understood the importance of tone, body language, and genuine connection. While the next generation relies heavily on texts and DMs, these digital tools can sometimes lead to misunderstandings or shallow exchanges. Bringing back the habit of prioritizing in-person communication could strengthen relationships and add depth to our connections.

12. Valuing Personal Space

Boomers respected boundaries, both physical and emotional. They understood that personal space was key to making people feel comfortable and safe. Whether it was standing an appropriate distance in line or avoiding prying into personal matters, they mastered the art of giving others room to breathe. In an age where oversharing and constant connectivity blur boundaries, bringing back this habit would create healthier, more respectful interactions in both public and private settings.

13. Leaving Shared Spaces Tidy

Whether they were hosting a gathering or enjoying a picnic, Boomers believed in leaving places better than they found them. Cleaning up after themselves wasn’t seen as a chore; it was just the right thing to do. Today, littered parks and disorganized public spaces reflect the decline of this considerate practice. Reintroducing this habit would make shared environments more enjoyable and foster a sense of collective responsibility for keeping things neat and welcoming.

14. Minimizing Phone Use in Social Settings

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Boomers grew up in a time when meals and gatherings were about connecting face-to-face, without the distraction of buzzing phones. They prioritized being present and fully engaged in conversations, a habit that’s sorely missing in today’s screen-obsessed world. Putting away phones during social events isn’t just nostalgic—it’s a simple way to show others that you value their company. It’s a small change that could lead to deeper, more meaningful interactions.

15. Saying “Goodbye” With Intention

Boomers understood the importance of a proper goodbye. Whether it was thanking the host, giving hugs, or expressing gratitude before leaving, their farewells left a lasting impression. Today, hurried exits and ghosting have taken over, making interactions feel incomplete. Taking the time to say a genuine goodbye not only shows appreciation but also strengthens bonds. It’s a simple yet powerful way to leave a positive mark on others after any interaction.

This content was created by a real person with the assistance of AI.

Harper Stanley graduated from Eugene Lang College at The New School in NYC in 2006 with a degree in Media Studies and Literature and Critical Analysis. After graduating, she worked as an editorial assistant at The Atlantic before moving to the UK to work for the London Review of Books.

When she's not waxing poetic about literature, she's writing articles about dating, relationships, and other women's lifestyle topics to help make their lives better. While shocking, she really has somehow managed to avoid joining any social media apps — a fact she's slightly smug about.