Arrogance can show up in people in different ways. On a date, you might perceive a guy as arrogant if he’s self-absorbed, making every conversation about him. Or, if he’s chronically late to everything, showing zero respect for other people. Whether it’s unintentional or not, certain behaviors can make a send self-important and rude vibes, like these 15. They need to stop!
1. They interrupt others.
When a guy talks over other people, he’s telling them, “What you have to say doesn’t matter.” It shows that he only cares about the sound of his voice and personal opinions. He assumes everyone wants to hear what’s in his self-absorbed head, ’cause he’s so much more important than everyone else in the room, right? Wrong, so off-putting!
2. They dismiss your feelings.
He might not be the most empathetic man in the world, but he should show that he cares about other people. If he rolls his eyes or smirks when someone talks about their anxiety or a bad day at work, he’s brushing away their emotions and making them feel unseen. He might do this because underneath all his confident layers he’s insecure and trying to distract himself from his difficult feelings.
3. They only talk about themselves.
When meeting a guy for the first time, he might be excited to share information about himself. While that’s sweet, it’s not appealing if he rambles on and doesn’t give anyone else the chance to take the stage. He lacks self-awareness, steering all conversations back to him. Instead of being so selfish, he should consider what others want to talk about.
4. They name-drop.
He might not mean to sound braggy or boastful by mentioning that he’s friends with a friend of a pop star, or that he’s gone yachting with multimillionaires. But that’s exactly how it comes across! He’s trying to seem better than others by associating with the rich and famous and it just makes him look desperate.
5. They mansplain.
When someone mentions that they want to publish a book, the guy might jump in and tell them how to navigate the process (even though he’s never published a book in his life!). It’s insulting because his mansplaining ways assume the other person knows nothing and needs his “knowledge and expertise.” Instead of doing this, he should be humble and let people share what they know.
6. They show off their experiences.
While some men will brag about their material possessions, others might try to boast about their life experiences. Maybe they talk about how they’ve visited 20 countries or how they used to be a star athlete in college. They think their experiences are special and outshine everyone else’s, but it’s a move that lacks self-awareness.
7. They make demands.
Men come across as arrogant when they have a long list of what they want and expect from others. For example, before a first date, a guy might make demands about where he wants to go and what he wants to do, with everything revolving around him. It’s selfish and shows a lack of care for the other person’s preferences.
8. They mock people’s opinions.
When a guy displays arrogance, he often dismisses others’ opinions with phrases like, “You’re not grasping the full scope of the situation” or “I can’t believe you think that!” Such responses can leave individuals feeling belittled and invalidated as if their viewpoints hold no weight. This behavior is condescending and serves to assert their dominance.
9. They blame others for everything.
During conversation, a guy might negatively talk about other people, whether his roommates, friends, boss, or co-workers. For example, maybe he claims to have failed an exam because his professor didn’t teach the concepts properly, or he insists he fought with his friend because he was stressed at work. Everything is always someone else’s fault, which shows an air of superiority and a lack of responsibility.
10. They’re always chronically late.
If a guy makes everyone wait for him to show up to dates or events whenever he feels like it, it’s arrogant. It sends the message that he only cares about his schedule and commitments, expecting others to shift their lives around to accommodate him. Even if the guy doesn’t intend for this to happen, his lack of self-awareness and high level of self-entitlement speaks volumes and gives him a cocky attitude.
11. They crave the spotlight.
Spending time with someone who always wants attention is frustrating. Trying to be the funniest, smartest, and most entertaining guy in the world speaks to an underlying insecurity, and just comes across as overly confident. They’re quick to steal the limelight which shows they also care more about getting attention than forming close connections with others.
12. They live above the rules.
A guy will come across as arrogant if he behaves as though the norms and rules don’t apply to him. He might think he can break the law because he’s above it or do whatever he wants because the consequences can’t affect him. While he might think he’s a cool risk-taker, his belief that he’s entitled to special treatment points to a superiority complex.
13. They make grandiose statements.
If a guy’s always telling tall tales about himself, like claiming he’s smarter than all his peers or he’s always the life of the party, this makes him seem so self-absorbed. He’s desperately seeking validation and admiration from others to boost his self-esteem. When he receives that praise, it’ll just reinforce his over-inflated sense of confidence.
14. They give people unsolicited advice.
When a guy eagerly offers unsolicited advice, it exudes an air of arrogance. While he might be trying to be supportive here, it’s rude to step in and tell people what to do, especially if they haven’t asked for advice. It also points to his desperate need for attention and approval, which is so off-putting.
15. They point out other people’s errors.
A guy might feel the need to display his superiority by judging others. He’ll point out other people’s errors, taking delight in the boost of confidence this gives him. For example, he might correct someone by saying, “It’s pronounced ‘nuclear,’ not ‘nucular.” Or, he might say, “You might think that the meal you’re eating is healthy, but it’s packed with hidden sugars.” Being on the receiving end of his arrogant lectures is annoying.
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