15 Reasons The Guy You’re Overlooking Is The One You Should Be Dating

Every girl has that guy in her life who’s great and all, but who you don’t really consider dating material. For whatever silly reason, you’ve decided he’s not right. Maybe he’s not enough of a badass; maybe he doesn’t have any issues for you to fix and that scares you. Whatever it is, here are a few good reasons you should’ve been interested in him all along:

  1. He’s probably a lot of fun. Obviously. You hang out with him for a reason. You wouldn’t be friends if you didn’t have a good time together. You can always count on him for a laugh, and he’s game for everything. Go figure — these are really important qualities to look for in a boyfriend!
  2. He doesn’t just call himself a “nice guy” — he actually is one. You wouldn’t be friends with a guy who’s mean to you, so why do you date guys who treat you like crap? You already know this one won’t. He’s a good person, genuine and kind and interested in you as more than just a piece of meat. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be hanging around and spending time with you.
  3. He’s thoughtful and considerate. Any guy who takes the time to remember little details about you and who does considerate stuff for you without being asked is worth your attention. Do you like people doing nice things for you? Of course, who doesn’t? Why wouldn’t you want to be with someone who wants to make you as happy as possible? Don’t brush a worthy guy like this aside.
  4. He really knows you (or at least he’d like to). You’re good friends and so you’re most likely way more comfortable around him than you are on dates. You can be yourself with him, and he appreciates you all the more for that. This is a great position to be in when you start a relationship. You don’t have to worry about any initial awkwardness or nervousness. The two of you are already way past that.
  5. He’s honest with you. You’re friends because you respect the fact that he’s always straight with you. He doesn’t feel the need to spare your feelings or avoid an awkward situation — he knows when you need to hear the truth. This is a super important quality to have in a healthy partnership. You need to know you can trust your boyfriend.
  6. He actually listens instead of just pretending to. Would you be his buddy otherwise? No. He is genuinely interested in what you have to say, and vice versa. You have spirited debates and intellectual conversations. He knows some of your most embarrassing moments and your darkest secrets, and he remembers all of it. Why are you wasting your time with that pretty but vapid guy babbling in your ear about stuff you don’t give two craps about?
  7. He’s smart as hell. Well, obviously — he thinks you’re great! You aren’t friends with dummies, so once again – why bother dating them? What, because the sex is good? Yeah, maybe for a little while! It’ll get really boring really fast without any intellectual connection behind it. The guy who’s smart in other ways will be smart in bed. If nothing else, he’ll be willing and eager to learn!
  8. He’s more interesting than you give him credit for. If he’s captured your attention as a friend for a good period of time then he can’t be too much of a dud. You enjoy his company, and long-term relationships really are about companionship. Don’t rule him out as an option. You can rest assured that you’ll never be in want of a good time.
  9. He respects you. As a friend, as a woman, as a human… it’s all important. You need to have common respect and admiration to have a great relationship. Why not give your affection to someone who already gives you everything you deserve and more? If there’s no respect, there can’t be any other lasting connection.
  10. He likely won’t screw you over. You already know where he lives, and he has all the same friends as you. Obviously you need to tread carefully for these same reasons — if it ends up not working out, things could get awkward. On the other hand, you both take the idea of getting more serious, well, very seriously. It’s not something to enter into lightly, so you’ll know that you both want it very much.
  11. He’s stuck by you. Through the ups and downs of your life, he’s always been there as a supportive shoulder to lean on and a respectful confidant. You don’t have to worry that he’ll abandon you if the going gets tough. He’s already seen you at your best and worst. You can trust him to stand strong by your side.
  12. He shares your interests. You two have a lot in common — you already know this since you’re friends. You don’t have to spend endless hours on a dating site trying to match with someone who has similar hobbies because he’s already right there in front of you.
  13. He treats you well. He’s chivalrous without erring on the side of misogyny and considerate without smothering you. He respects you as a strong and independent woman, but he’s also there if you ever need him for anything. He knows that you’re amazing. You should definitely be with a guy like this.
  14. He’s unassuming. Since the two of you already have a relationship with each other, he’ll respect you if you decide to become romantic. He has no unrealistic expectations or demands. He knows it’s a delicate situation and that the two of you might need to take it slow. He’s okay with that. After all, he’s been waiting a long time for you to realize that he’s the guy for you.
  15. He has your back. You don’t have to worry that he’ll disappear on you, or make excuses, or get scared and run away. You know he’ll be there when the going gets rough, and it always does. He’s already been there for you through a lot of pain, maybe even heartbreak, patiently waiting for the moment you look at him and finally see that he’s everything you need and more.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.