15 Signs He’s Going To Bolt After You Sleep With Him

It’s not always easy to know if a guy’s going to stick around after a steamy sex session or run for the hills. Still, there are some common signs that he’s just in it for the sex—here are 15 to keep an eye out for.

  1. He’s dying to show you his new wallpaper. Every time you meet up, all he can talk about is taking you back home with him. No, it’s not to show you his fancy bachelor pad but to have sex. He has no interest in getting to know you. If he did, it wouldn’t matter where you were.
  2. He doesn’t really date. You don’t actually date, you “hang out” (and he’s sure to call it that). He won’t take you to dinner or your favorite opera. He’d prefer to chill at his place or meet for a quick drink instead of sitting down to coffee. It’s too damn convenient.
  3. He keeps the details of his life a mystery. When you try to talk to him about his job, friends, or family, he becomes super mysterious and vague. It’s a sign he doesn’t want to let you into his life because you’re only supposed to be there for however long it takes him to bed you.
  4. He’s never there when you need him. When you want to talk about your life or you’re going through a tough time, he pulls a disappearing act and later claims that he was busy AF. Yeah, right. The guy just doesn’t want to get too real with you and he certainly doesn’t want you to get the idea that you can depend on him.
  5. He has sex on the brain. It seems like he’s always talking about, joking about, and referring to sex. You could say that the sky’s blue and he’ll find a way to joke about blue balls. Ugh. It’s actually annoying AF.
  6. He loves your body a little too much. You might think it’s a good thing that he always says how much he loves your appearance, but it’s actually the opposite. It shows that he’s not looking deeper into who you are. He has zero depth.
  7. Booze is always involved. He tries to have dates where alcohol is involved, and this is part of his game to get you to relax and climb into his bed. A guy who wants to focus on enjoying booze when he goes out with you is also showing you that he’s just after a good time.
  8. His exes might as well be non-existent. You’ve tried to talk about his previous relationships but he always shoots down your efforts. You know absolutely nothing about any of his previous exes or flings. He doesn’t want you to know anything about his past because he’s avoiding emotional intimacy.
  9. He pervs over other women. If he’s always salivating over other women and looking at them with bedroom eyes when he’s on dates with you, it shows that he’s constantly on the lookout for other sexual prospects. He’s fickle and, quite frankly, disrespectful AF. This is not the kind of guy who’ll make you pancakes after sex, care about your feelings, or want to meet your folks.
  10. He sends you selfies. You’re having a lightly flirtatious conversation via text when suddenly he floods your phone with half-naked pics of him so you can see his six pack or his package. Ugh. A guy who kills the mystery so quickly and has no shame in sending almost-strangers pictures of his naked body? That’s not BF material.
  11. He’s last-minute about all of his plans. He always texts you at the last minute to meet him at the party he’s currently at or to meet up at his place. The reason why he never makes real plans ahead of time with you is simple: why would he need to put any effort into you if he doesn’t see relationship potential? He wants quick and spontaneous sex. Nothing more.
  12. He’s pushy about his sexual desires. When you try to play hard to get and avoid talk of sex, he seems to become even more sexual. Ugh, can this guy stop being so damn horny all the time? It’s like he just sees you as an object.
  13. He never talks about what happens after sex. When he sends you long, sexual texts, he outlines what he’s going to do to you in the bedroom to give you pleasure but never mentions what’ll happen afterward. You get the sense that you’ll have to leave soon after sex because this guy doesn’t seem like the cuddling type. What a loser.
  14. He’s throwing love bombs. You might think that since he’s showering you with romance, the guy’s into more than just a quickie… but don’t be so sure. If he’s coming on too strongly when he’s just met you, it screams hidden agenda. He probably sees that you’re a classy woman who needs to be romanced and he’s doing just that to get what he wants from you. It’s really not about you at all, but his selfish needs.
  15. Weekends are off-limits. You want to see him on weekends but he’s always busy with something else. He’ll see you during the week, though. This shouldn’t make you feel at ease. If a guy can never see you during his spare time, it’s clear that he’s reserving his precious weekends for someone else or other romantic prospects. You’re a hookup, not a potential girlfriend.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.