15 Signs The Guy You’re Dating Is Too Immature For A Relationship

15 Signs The Guy You’re Dating Is Too Immature For A Relationship ©iStock/wavemovies

Some guys have great intentions but just don’t really have the level of maturity it takes to follow through with the requirements of a real adult relationship. The problem is that they often end up in relationships anyway and hurt good women as a result of their childishness. Want to avoid setting yourself up for failure? Avoid guys who exhibit these signs:

  1. Acting like a player. If you notice a guy acting like a player, it’s a clear sign that he is one. Players are the epitome of being too immature and too self-centered for a real relationship. Don’t waste your time with a players — most of the time, they aren’t even good in bed.
  2. Making fart jokes. Aside from it being super unattractive, it also shows that he really didn’t mature past five years old. Besides, do you really want to date someone who would embarrass you with a fart joke?
  3. Not being able to admit fault. Ever notice how kids on a playground will always point to someone they’re arguing with and say, “He started it!”? Well, a guy who refuses to accept fault when he screwed up isn’t going to be able to handle an argument or face the facts when he’s messed up. Save yourself the trouble and forget about him.
  4. Being unable to hold down a job. A job is a kind of commitment, you know. If he can’t keep a job, chances are it’s because he’s too immature to do so. How can he properly commit to you if he can’t even commit to going to work?
  5. Sending penis pics. This is a classic move that shows a guy’s not mature enough to even get laid.
  6. Constantly showing up late to dates. Showing up late on a date is a serious sign of disrespect. Clearly he doesn’t take your time seriously and doesn’t value the fact that you’re taking time out of your day to see him. If he can’t be respectful enough to be on time, it’s time to call it quits.
  7. Pouting. This behavior is only acceptable if you’re three years old.
  8. Whining when he doesn’t get his way. When a guy does this, it’s just painfully gross and extremely unattractive. It only proves that he’s too much of a baby and a wuss to deal with the problems that life hands us all.
  9. Expecting his girlfriend to look like a model when he’s average. Actually, just about any shallow behavior shows that he’s not boyfriend material. That’s high school grade immaturity.
  10. Misogynistic, racist, or homophobic remarks. Make no mistake about it — a narrow-minded person is an immature person. Moreover, do you really want to date someone who’s bigoted?
  11. Generally rude behavior. Does he feel a need to put others down or make others uncomfortable just so that he gets to feel like the “head honcho”? If so, he’s got the emotional intelligence of a toddler. Don’t expect to win an argument with him, and don’t expect a relationship with him to be a good one.
  12. Entitlement. Has he watched one too many movies where the “guy gets the girl“? If he throws a fit just because he isn’t with a girl that he deems sexy enough for him, it’s time to cut your losses. Life isn’t a Disney movie, and he needs to grow up and realize that. The entitlement issues he has will only become more apparent as time passes.
  13. Thinking that life is like a rap video. If he’s constantly talking about how much money he makes, hitting up strip clubs, or just acting like his entire life is a Riff Raff video outtake, it’s a bad sign. Life is not all about partying, getting drugged up, and buying crap you can’t afford. Guys who don’t get that don’t have the maturity it takes to have a good relationship.
  14. A lopsided idea of how relationships work. Does he expect you to do all the housework AND bring home the bacon? Pass on this one until he gets a good dose of reality.
  15. Over-attachment to his mom. There’s a difference between loving one’s mom and being a Mama’s Boy. If Mommy still has to coddle him, or if he allows Mommy to make dating decisions for him, cut him loose. Otherwise, you will likely become a second mother to him.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

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