15 Signs It’s Time to End Your Toxic Friendship

Sometimes ending a friendship is just as hard as breaking up with a significant other. Maybe even more so, if you two have been tight since what seems like the beginning of time (freshman year of college). But people change, and you need to surround yourself with positive, healthy people who have your best interests at heart. Knowing when a friendship has run its course is the first step in letting go of your toxic friend.

  1. She can’t function without your input. Needy friends are almost as bad as needy boyfriends. You can’t be at her constant beck and call. You have your own problems, which, come to think of it, she never asks you about.
  2. She gets jealous of your other friends. God forbid you go out for lunch with someone from work and don’t tell her about it. How could you?
  3. She bad mouths your boyfriend. He’s nothing but nice to her, but as soon as he’s out of earshot, she can’t stop pointing out his flaws. That shirt? His hair? His “weird voice”? Basically, he’s no Brad Pitt, and you should dump him.
  4. She pressures you to go out. Who cares if it’s Tuesday night and you have a big presentation tomorrow?  You’re so lame if you’re in your pajamas by 9pm.
  5. She puts you down. It’s those nasty backhanded compliments that you need to watch out for. “This dress looked AMAZE on you 10 pounds ago. I’m sure you’ll fit into it soon now that you are hitting the gym again.”
  6. You have to tiptoe around her moods. You’re never sure who you are going to get – sweet, easy going best friend or devil incarnate you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. The egg shells you’ve been walking on have been ground into a fine layer of powder at this point.
  7. She never apologizes for anything. It doesn’t matter what she did, the next time you see her she’ll act like nothing happened. You better not bring it up, either, or the speed at which she’ll change the subject will knock the wind out of you.
  8. You find yourself picking fights with her. If it’s come to this, you either have a death wish, or you’re doing that thing where you’re doing everything you can think of to get her to dump you first.
  9. Other people are noticing a problem. Before, it was just a once in awhile thing that you could keep under wraps. Those were the days.
  10. She’s a bad influence. Weird how every time you have ever gotten blackout drunk, and the one time you experimented with ecstasy, she was there.
  11. She can’t keep a secret. You went against your better judgment and confided in her. Now everyone and their second cousin is asking how things are going at work with that knowing look of someone who’s fishing for information.
  12. When you need her, she mysteriously doesn’t answer her phone. Your car broke down, and you text her asking for a lift home. She responds the next day with a chipper, “Sorry! I was on the BEST date! Come over tonight, I’ll tell you all about it.” If you did that, you’d never hear the end of it.
  13. You can’t trust her. More than one guy has told you that she gets inappropriately flirty whenever you leave the room.
  14. She can’t admit her own flaws. You’ve told her on more than one occasion that her comments hurt your feelings sometimes, and she just responds with a snort, and “You’re way too sensitive! You know I’m just joking.”
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.