15 Signs It’s Not In Your Head—There’s Some Serious Sexual Tension

When you see them, electricity runs through your veins, your voice shakes, and you have to refrain yourself from just jumping their bones right then and there. It’s almost chemical—and if they’re reciprocating in these ways, you’re experiencing serious sexual tension.

  1. They rarely break eye contact. There’s a difference between making eye contact and never breaking eye contact. Most people will look a person in the eye when they’re speaking to them from time to time. What most people don’t do is stay locked in throughout an entire conversation. If their eyes stay on you without wandering, there’s a reason.
  2. Their playful compliments are extremely serious. When they say you’re beautiful or they compliment your outfit, they mean it. Even though they’re saying it jokingly, it’s definitely not a joke. They just don’t want to come on too strong so they flirt with you in a not-so-obvious, lighthearted way.
  3. When sex comes up, they get weird. When you’re hanging out with people and someone mentions sex, their demeanor changes (and so does yours). Even though they’re not talking about the two of you, you feel as if everyone just saw you naked and one or both of you might even go read.
  4. People around you get jealous. You can tell there’s sexual tension by the way others act around you. Do your friends make little comments about your interactions? Does the person you’re “dating” have a problem with the two of you hanging out? That’s a clear sign there’s sexual tension.
  5. There are more than a few awkward moments. Of course there are a few awkward moments between the two of you. After all, you’re both fighting the urge to throw yourselves on each other. There are bound to be a few uncomfortable pauses and lingering glances.
  6. You’re easily distracted by them. They have all of your attention—all of it. You’re always distracted by thoughts of them even when they’re nowhere in sight. When you’re doing laundry, grocery shopping, or out on a date, they’re on your mind.
  7. Cliche moves don’t seem cliche with them. Have you ever winked or blew someone a kiss without feeling like a weirdo? It’s rare but it happens when you’re with this person! You can do every cliche move in the book and it still feels like the most natural thing in the world.
  8. You feel it even more in a crowded room. It’s easy to feel connected to someone else when you’re the only two people in the room, but if you feel this intense pull even when there are hundreds of people around, that’s sexual tension.
  9. They don’t pull away and neither do you. Whenever you two accidentally bump arms or you graze their knee unintentionally, neither of you pulls away. In fact, you move closer. It’s as if those accidental touches are what you’ve both been waiting for.
  10. You feel like a kid again. Remember when you were in middle school and you had butterflies every time you saw your crush walk by? That’s kind of what you’re feeling now, right? Your heart skips a beat when you see them and you two chat and giggle like you’re both in middle school again.
  11. You constantly catching yourself daydreaming about them. And they’re not exactly PG-13 daydreams. You’ve either had sex dreams starring them or you’ve found yourself wishing they’d run up to you in the pouring rain and give you the best kiss of your life. The point is you’ve visualized them in a sexual way and that’s a huge sign there’s sexual tension.
  12. They lean in a little too close to talk. How close do they stand to you during a conversation? If they’re all up in and around your bubble, there’s a reason: they want to be close to you. It’s not like it’s loud outside or you’re saying something really important. They’re in your space because they want to be in your space.
  13. You always dress to impress around each other. Whenever you two see each other, you’re both dressed to impress. They’re not rolling up in their Sunday sweats and you’re not makeup-free with a messy bun. You both look SNATCHED and it’s because you want to look good for each other.
  14. Their eyes wander. Their eyes are always on you, but they might wander a little bit up and down your body. Don’t take this the wrong way. It doesn’t mean they’re necessarily sexualizing you or trying to picture you naked, they’re just attracted to you. (And yeah, they’d probably like to see you naked.)
  15. You find yourself whispering. Even when the room is quiet and you’re talking about something non-sexy like work, you still lean into one another and talk in low voices. Do you know why? Because there’s sexual tension, obviously.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.